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16 Dating Apps and Websites for Over-50 Singles

Your guide to the most popular digital spots to find love

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Jeff Jordy used online dating services off and on for years after his divorce. Dating services like Match, eHarmony and OurTime all flitted across his phone or computer screen at one time or another.​

Personal experience and input from friends helped him determine which dating apps worked best for him. But many more options are available now than when he entered the dating scene more than 15 years ago.​

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You “learn their differences and what kind of people might be on them and if it’s a good fit,” says Jordy, 61, of Nashville, Tennessee.​

In the past decade, a consistently growing number of singles have turned to online dating as a way to meet people and find love. Three out of 10 Americans say they have used an online dating app or website, according to February data from the Pew Research Center, and digital dating providers are expected to have reached 441 million users worldwide by the end of 2023, according to Statista.

Dating apps and sites can be free or paid, and many offer free versions but charge a fee for all the bells and whistles. In recent years, many of these apps have added enhanced communication options, including video chat. Daters over 50 definitely have a preference when it comes to digital dating: Online dating service Match is most popular among people ages 50-64, according to the data from Pew. ​

There are apps for general audiences and those aimed specifically at singles over 50, while others try to match daters who are religious or those in the LGBTQ+ community. As always, make sure to use safe practices to avoid online scams and other dangers.

Here’s your guide to some of the digital dating options.​

Dating sites for adults 50+

1. OurTime

Available as an app and accessible from a laptop or desktop, OurTime prioritizes local profiles before showing long-distance ones, and it’s free to sign up and start browsing. With a free account, users can click the “Flirt” button to let singles know they’re interested, read their profiles and edit their own profile. If you click the heart icon on a profile, it sends a message that says, “Great profile. I’d love to hear from you.” Profile upgrades that make OurTime unique include the ability to send virtual gifts, like a picture of a rose, or get a profile boosted in searches to make it easier to find. Be aware that while the site bills itself for people 50 and older, it features profiles of younger people too. A one-month plan starts at $30, and a three-month plan is $70.​

2. SilverSingles

SilverSingles takes a different approach from swipe-based apps, which ask users to make initial choices primarily based on a photo, or other services where users choose their own match. With SilverSingles, users answer a personality quiz that takes about 10 minutes to complete and receive five matches a day, according to the downloadable app. There’s also a desktop option. The site claims 40 percent of users are 50-plus. A basic SilverSingles membership is free. Premium packages start at $24.95 per month for 12 months.​

Dating apps for a general audience

3. Bumble

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This dating app gives women all the power to make the first move. Bumble is swipe-based, so users swipe right on profile photos they like. If a woman swipes on a man and he swipes on her as well, it’s a match. In heterosexual matches, women have 24 hours to message their match before the connection expires. In same-sex matches, either party has 24 hours to message, and then the other has another 24 hours to respond before the connection expires. Bumble also offers Bumble BFF, a friendship matchmaking site, and Bumble Biz for networking. Bumble is free to download and free to use core features, but upgrades — like spotlight or superswiping your profile so more local singles see it — come with a fee. Upgraded plans include Bumble Boost, which costs $14.99 per month and gives one spotlight per week and five superswipes per week, which let someone know you are especially interested in them. Bumble Premium costs $17.99 per month and has features that allow you to see who swiped on you before you swipe on them, rematching with expired matches, and extending matches by another 24 hours. Premium also has a travel mode that lets you look for people when you travel and offers an incognito mode, which hides your profile until you swipe on someone (nice if you don’t want your ex or your boss to see you on there). If you’re a dedicated dater, a lifetime subscription is $199.​

4. Coffee Meets Bagel

CMB encourages users to make real connections by limiting the number of profiles they can like to five per day. Users have only seven days after matching to meet up in real life, putting a stop to ghosting, or having someone disappear completely or stop responding to messages. Coffee Meets Bagel says it handpicks suggested profiles for viewing each day based on its algorithm, which uses nine parameters to come up with curated matches. Like most of the dating apps, it’s free to download and use the basic services, but premium upgrades like additional matches and profile boosting come with a cost. Coffee Meets Bagel uses “beans” to purchase profile upgrades, and depending on any promotions or sales, the starting cost for additional beans is as little as $1.99 for 100. Earn free beans for inviting people or following people. There are mini packages or premium packages ranging from $9 to $20. ​

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5. eHarmony

A classic, trusted dating site for users of all ages where, according to eHarmony’s website, someone finds love every 14 minutes. The sign-up process is lengthy, according to a review from Mashable, with lots of personality questions to fill out, but it helps find good matches and those who are interested in long-term relationships. The least expensive plan starts at $7.95 per month for 12 months, but costs depend on length of sign-up and whether the site is running a promotion. Some say you can spend as much as $200 for one year. The price comes with a guarantee: Find someone you love in three months or get another three months free of charge. eHarmony also has a subsite that says it’s specifically for older adults.​ ​

6. Facebook Dating

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With Facebook Dating, you needn’t worry that all of your friends will see you looking for love. Facebook Dating doesn’t display on your personal Facebook page, and you create an entirely separate profile for the dating experience. But to make things easier, the platform mocks up a suggested profile by pulling photos and information from your personal page and highlights users who have groups and events in common with your own. It also tells you if you have contacts in common on Facebook, a useful feature if you’d like to ask a real-life friend about someone, though it doesn’t reveal more than two of these by name. As with Bumble, when you like someone, you’re matched if they like you back, but there’s no swiping involved. Just tap the “heart,” or the “X” button if you want to skip someone. Once you’re matched you’ll be notified, and either person can send the first message. Be aware that Facebook Dating is only offered through the app and has no desktop version. And keep in mind that Facebook Dating may appeal to older daters more than some other apps, since 36 percent of Facebook users are over 45, according to consumer data company Statista. For now at least, Facebook Dating is free and doesn’t have ads, either.​

Facebook also offers interest-based dating groups (Jordy has joined several over the years, including one for vegetarians and another for mindful living). Other dating groups on Facebook include those for people who are recently divorced or for meeting other singles in their 50s, 60s and 70s. Users can join these dating groups for free using their personal Facebook profiles and post, comment and interact.​

7. Hinge

Interests and hobbies are central to Hinge, which aims to go beyond looks when matching people. Personality questions and likes and dislikes help users choose whom to connect with. Michele Herrmann, a former Match.com profile consultant, has used Hinge and likes the app’s question format, which asks users about their interests and displays that information prominently. Instead of swiping, Hinge also features an “x” or “skip” button at the bottom of each profile, making accidental profile rejections less likely. Hinge’s motto, “Designed to be deleted,” makes it clear that it’s aiming for those who are seeking a relationship rather than a hookup. The app notes that 3 out of 4 of its users want to go on a second date, and in 2017 it was the most-mentioned dating app in The New York Times wedding section. Hinge costs $34.99 per month, $64.99 for three months ($21.66 per month) and $99 for six months ($16.66 per month) for Preferred, which allows users to send unlimited likes, to see everyone who likes them and to set extra preferences. ​

8. Match

This granddaddy of dating services is turning 28 years old this year. But it’s not considered outdated and also has a downloadable app along with a browser-based platform. And Match comes with a guarantee: The company promises that those with a paid subscription who don’t find a serious relationship within six months will get an additional six months of service for free. Once a user fills out a personality and interest questionnaire, Match will suggest curated potential partners. Most of the communication features, like seeing who your likes and matches are, require a paid subscription, and plans start at $22.99 per month for six months. You can connect Match to your Instagram so users can see your Instagram photos, though your Instagram handle, comments and any personal information will not appear. ​

9. OkCupid

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OkCupid was created in 2004 by a group of friends from Harvard University. The app features options for users to choose from many gender options (including noncomforming, gender fluid, intersex and transgender) and several orientation options (like heteroflexible, queer and questioning), making it LGBTQ+ friendly. Users are shown curated matches based on a questionnaire about personality and interests, which takes less than five minutes. One new feature is asking if you’d like to add a “Pro-choice” badge to your profile. OkCupid says it makes 90 million matches each year. The basic services are free to use, and upgraded features start at $22.50 per month for six months. ​

10. Tinder

One of the most popular dating apps, Tinder was once known as a hookup app for people not looking for long-term commitment. But for many people over 50, Tinder has become a more traditional way to meet and connect. Tinder is swipe-based, like a lot of other apps, meaning you swipe right on a person’s profile when you like how they look and to connect. Some additional profile details like age, gender and a short bio may help you decide as well. While Tinder is used by people of all ages and many users will be younger, the app allows users to set an age range to help focus searches. While it’s free to download and get started, be aware that Tinder has a tiered payment system that costs more for adults over age 30, and profile upgrades and additional features also come with additional charges. Tinder Plus, which gives users unlimited likes and rewinds on last swipe, allows them to control searches by age and distance from where they live as well as only showing users to people they have liked and more, costs $7.99 per month for those over age 30.​

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11. Zoosk

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​Zoosk started out as one of the first dating apps to integrate with Facebook in 2007, although now there’s Facebook Dating. Zoosk doesn’t require users to fill out all their profile information, making long-lasting connections less likely than short-term dating or hookups. Sign in with your Google or Facebook account for ease of use, but know you’re giving up personal information from your social media accounts to log in that way. Scroll through profiles instead of swiping while on the app, and use the paid subscription to unlock the ability to send messages to matches (you can’t even respond to them without paying if they messaged you). Zoosk has an interesting feature that allows you to verify your photo so other users will know it’s actually an image of you. Pricing starts at $29.95 for one month or $10 per month for one year. ​

Dating services based on religion

12. JDate

A niche dating service for Jewish singles, JDate offers both a website and a smartphone app. JDate’s website says each profile is reviewed by a customer care team with the goal of building Jewish communities and ensuring culture and tradition last for generations. JDate sends curated matches to users but also allows them to browse other profiles. You must say what category of Jewish religious identity you fall into, ranging from Orthodox to Reform to Willing to Convert to “Other.” Prices start at $29.99 per month for six months. ​

13. ChristianMingle

ChristianMingle is the dating service designed for “single men and women looking for a God-centered relationship,” according to the website. Like JDate, ChristianMingle features extensive profiles and sends potential matches each day, but only up to seven. Users enter their education level and the type of Christianity they practice. Registering also requires users to input how often they attend church, and not attending church is not an option. Profile setup is free, but chatting with other members and meeting matches requires a subscription starting at $24.99 per month for six months.​

Apps for LGBTQ+ daters

14. HER

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A swipe-based dating app, HER was created for LGBTQ+ women and nonbinary singles. As with other swipe-based apps, users view another person’s photo and profile details before deciding whether to swipe right (a yes) or left (a no). If the same person also swipes right on your profile, it’s a match, and the dating app will let you know. Like most swipe-based apps that allow users to see more profile information by clicking on a photo before making a decision, HER offers a short, optional bio section with details about age, occupation and hobbies. HER says the site features safety moderators and bills itself as a “social and dating” app, so it’s good for finding friendships, too. Although the core features like swiping and chatting are free, HER also offers premium paid memberships that allow users to remove ads and undo skips. Users can go incognito if they’re not ready to be out, change locations and set filters for age and other characteristics if they have a “type.” Gold is $11.67 per month for six months. ​

15. Grindr

Created for gay men, Grindr welcomes a “diverse and inclusive community,” according to an email statement. Grindr is swipe-based and advertises its ability to match users quickly. Unlike some dating apps, Grindr allows matches to share photos and audio messages in-app, meaning users don’t have to use another medium like Snapchat or Facebook to share additional images. This is also part of Grindr’s attraction for those looking for casual sex instead of long-term commitment: It’s easy to share photos, decide whether there’s an attraction and meet up. Grindr’s key features are free to download and use, but upgraded profiles start at $12.99 for one week. ​

Apps for specific communities

16. BLK 

Created in 2017 (and pronounced B-L-K), BLK’s mission is to “create an exclusive community where Black men and Black women can find meaningful connections with people who share similar likes and interests.” As you scroll through a personalized list of profiles, slide the profile right to give the person a “Yeah” or click the heart. If you’re not interested, slide left for a “Nah” or click the X. If the “Yeah” is mutual, you’re a match and can start chatting immediately. According to The Grio, the app is more than just a place for single Black people to meet, “It’s creating a community for change.” The app is free to scroll through profiles and start swiping and chatting. A one-week Elite membership, which includes features like boosting your profile and seeing who has liked you for instant matches, starts at $17.99. ​

Editor's note: This article was originally published on January 14, 2021. It has been updated to reflect new information. 

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