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For a family caregiver, the idea of taking a day off — let alone a full-fledged vacation — can seem unfathomable.
There are appointments to manage, meals to make and a litany of other tasks on your caregiving to-do list. You may feel a deep sense of responsibility, not just to keep things running smoothly but also to be available whenever your loved one might need you.
But the truth is this: Taking time away isn’t indulgent. It’s necessary.
“The caregiving journey is a marathon, not a sprint,” says Lisa Mayfield, founder and principal at care management company Aging Wisdom and a past president of the Aging Life Care Association, a professional organization for geriatric care managers. “If you don’t take these moments to rest, you may not be able to finish the race. It’s a long haul, and breaks are important.”
If you don’t take dedicated time to rest and recharge, you can become physically, mentally and emotionally depleted, which can leave your loved one and others who depend on you without the support they need.
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If the primary caregiver burns out, “the whole house of cards comes crumbling down, and you end up in a crisis,” says Laura Vaillancourt, founder of the counseling and care management firm Eldercare. “You have to unplug. It’s important.”
Whether you want a weekend away or a 10-day trip to an exotic island, here’s how to prepare for your time away, experience more enjoyment during your days off and ensure a smoother return to your caregiving duties.
Outline your coverage options
Your support plan will vary depending on your loved one’s needs, their living arrangement and your available resources. For instance, you could tap into a sole primary fill-in caregiver or build a broader network of assistance. Make a list of potential options — including friends and family, adult day programs, professional in-home caregivers or a short stay at a local care facility — then consider the best fit. Mayfield says an aging care manager, such as an Aging Life Care Association member, can be a helpful resource.
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