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I have now been retired for five or six years. Or maybe it’s four or five. I know it’s more than three and less than seven. Numbers, I’ve found, become harder to remember once you retire. And yes, that would be all the numbers of your life: the numbered dates on the calendar, any password that includes a number, and, of course, your phone number — although I think that is equal parts the dulling of retirement and the fact that we never call ourselves.
Retirement has turned out to be one of those Big Life Changes. In my case, I went from an insanely fast-paced work life as a journalist — all the while juggling a family without a minute for myself — to the wide-openness of retirement. As many people do, I focused all of my retirement planning on finances: How much money would I need to live comfortably for the rest of my days?
I gave very little thought to how I would actually spend those days. When friends asked, I would glibly answer that I planned to sleep for three months, then wake up and read all the books I never had time to read while I was working 12-hour days and driving my kids to soccer practice. If anyone pressed harder about my plans, I would mumble something about writing a book.
That first year after watching my career fade in the rearview mirror, I rapidly went from life at 100 mph to days when I saw no real reason to get out of bed. Retirement changed everything for me. My old life evaporated almost instantly, and I simply had no idea what I was supposed to do with all this newfound free time on my hands.
Relax! Volunteer! Get in shape! Find a hobby! Travel! Try yoga! The well-meaning advice that came my way was plentiful; my interest in taking it, not so much.
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