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The Problem
After Lisa Nielsen’s mother died in 2012, her widowed father, Bruce, started spending big: an infinity pool for his Las Vegas home, a backyard putting green, a car for a cocktail waitress. Bruce, 89, died in 2023, three months after marrying a woman younger than Lisa, who is 56. Lisa knew she was the sole beneficiary of his $69,000 IRA held at Wells Fargo. There was just one problem: The bank wouldn’t release it without an OK from Bruce’s widow. “Wells suggested I hire a lawyer,” Lisa told me. “But the law was 100 percent on my side.”
The Advice
In general, when you name a beneficiary of your retirement account or life insurance policy, that dictates the recipient, not your will. The assets can be transferred without going through probate.
You can name anyone as your beneficiary, explains Theresa S. Gee, legal director for the Pension Rights Center. Let’s say, however, you’re married and want to make someone other than your spouse the beneficiary of your retirement account. If it’s covered by ERISA, a federal law governing employee benefit accounts, your spouse must sign a form consenting to another beneficiary. ERISA covers 401(k) and most nonprofits’ 403(b) retirement plans, not traditional or Roth IRAs. So, Lisa figured, she shouldn’t have to get the widow’s consent to get her $69,000.
But there was a complication. Because Nevada is one of nine community property states, any assets acquired while married are owned 50/50. If Bruce contributed to the IRA during his brief marriage, half of that new money (plus half of any returns on it) would belong to his wife, unless she signed a spousal waiver.
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