My First Trip as a Widow Almost Didn’t Happen

Before total panic set in, I called my travel agent friend Nancy. She advised me on what to do, and fortunately I received a new passport a few days before my departure.

The night before my scheduled two-week excursion, I flew from my home in Florida to New York City to meet my fellow travel mates at a cocktail party.

The next morning, our group headed for the Brooklyn terminal to board the luxurious Cunard ship. I was aglow with excitement as I lined up for the customs agent to check my documents.

The agent took longer than usual to review my passport. Then he said, rather brusquely, “Lady, this one has expired; you can’t board the ship.” Then he said to the man standing in line behind me, “Next, please!’’

I realized that in my rush to get everything packed, I had inadvertently put the expired passport in my bag, along with my ticket and other important items.

My heart was beating so fast, I felt I would surely pass out. I couldn’t believe I had packed the expired document.

As I walked away from the line, I saw hundreds of people going through the gate to board the ship, smiling, laughing and gleeful to embark on a joyful tour.

But I felt like a lost 5-year-old looking for her mommy in this huge crowd. I turned to Myra, who was also in shock, not knowing what to do or say. “You go,’’ I said and gave her a big hug. She didn’t need to be punished for my mistake.

With my legs shaking so hard I feared falling, I sat down on a nearby bench.

A guard standing nearby suggested I contact the tour operator’s main office in Boston. The person I spoke with there was so kind; obviously I wasn’t the first inexperienced senior traveler in trouble. 

You can’t board the ship, he told me, but if you find your updated passport, we can help you book a flight from New York to London. That way, I could at least enjoy the second half of the trip.

“Just remember to bring your updated passport to the airport,” he said.

But where would I, a transplant from Florida, stay for a whole week in New York? The thought of flying from New York to Florida and back again was overwhelming, not to mention costly. And how would I get my new passport?

First, I called a friend on Long Island, who lives minutes from JFK airport. I shared my tale of woe and asked if I could hang out at her home until my flight to London the following week. She was happy for the company, as her husband had died a month earlier.

Then I called my sister, who, because she had the keys to my house in Florida, could overnight my updated passport. Things were working out.

Surprisingly, my week in New York was delightful. I enjoyed a day at the Whitney Museum, an evening at a Jones Beach concert, and even dined in a lovely French restaurant.

The following week, with my updated passport clutched in my sweaty hand, I flew to London to meet my tour group, which had arrived at the hotel an hour earlier.

In the lobby, I was greeted with cheers and applause. “You made it,’’ Myra said as she hugged me tightly.

While I missed the glorious experience aboard the ship, I did have a memorable time in London, seeing iconic sites and enjoying such shows as Hamilton, Mamma Mia! and Les Misérables.

Although embarrassed by my passport mishap, I felt proud that I recovered and made it through — well, at least halfway through — this first trip as a widow on my own.

In the years since my visit to London, I’ve traveled to Australia and Iceland, and joined a cruise to Budapest and Prague, making all the arrangements by myself — and always double-checking the expiration date on my passport!

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