Yes, you can love someone to the moon and not love the way they dress. But before you haul out the trash bags and call Goodwill, know that most mature men don't analyze their outfits in the mirror like we do. They just pull on clothes without a thought to trends, style or fit. So how are you going to make over a guy who happily belts baggy ancient Levis below his prominent belly or wears a boxy blazer from 1984 with pleated stiff chinos? It takes tact, strategy and the kind of wily negotiating you use with contractors and car dealers. Here is the sneaky woman's guide to tweaking his wardrobe for 2018.
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Bring it up during a show featuring 50+ actors
For example: Here's Denzel Washington wearing a navy polo, black pants, blazer and sneakers on The Tonight Show With Jimmy Fallon. That combo of tonal dressing, relaxed tailoring and sneakers
fresh but not trying-too-hard trendy. Point out that looking contemporary and stylish is an asset now for women and men ... even everyday folks like us. Well-dressed older dudes get noticed, promoted, hired and included more, and that's good for self-esteem and work, plus it adds a buzz to your social life. is
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Give positive reinforcement
Start with color. You prefer him in grays and blues rather than tans and browns? Let him know he looks hot in that navy crew or charcoal V-neck, a blue button-down, a chambray shirt or his silver puffer. Note how cool colors flatter Liam Neeson's fair skin, blue eyes
andgraying hair. And that gray polo under a navy jacket with jaunty gray pocket square was no accident; it was intentional selection. Skin and hair color and texture change with age for us all, and simply wearing the complementary colors can help minimize ruddiness, dark circles and age spots, soften lines, brighten skin and enhance eye color or hair going gray. Use flattery: No need to clue him in toany flaws.
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Show him stylish celeb pics that 'remind' you of him
Maybe Samuel L. Jackson's gray cap, clear plastic frames, gray T-shirt
andhoodie will make him think more about creating his own new signature look. Find his "clone" and let him know whatever Daniel Craig/Bruce Willis/Brad Pitt/Morgan Freeman/Giancarlo Esposito is wearing "would look great on you, too!" Yep, saying he's a look-alike is ego-boosting incentive.
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Give style update mini-lessons
Show him the cool way Tom Cruise wears a crisp button-down — not precisely cuffed and belted, but untucked, with sleeves casually rolled, over jeans. (Or use this trick yourself, and he'll follow.) Do the half-tuck with tees like Brad Pitt and then say everyone does this now to look polished but hide muffin tops. He'll feel hip and better about his body. Dress tonally in one color and explain in an offhand way that it makes choosing what to wear so much easier ... and it makes you look taller and slimmer, too. He'll copy that.
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Buy him clothes with a modern twist
Look at Bruce Willis ringside at a Knicks game looking newsy in sleek-fitting dark jeans and crew (tonal dressing!), striped socks and shiny loafers. It's the details that make the difference. Gifts are an opportunity to introduce new basic items he'd never choose for himself. How about new-for-him colorful striped socks, fitted jeans in a dark wash with 2 percent stretch, sexy longer black microfiber briefs in black, or slip-on sneaker/loafer hybrids with contrasting rubber soles for a start? Don’t wait for birthdays and holidays. Make it a "because it was so you and on sale" or "I saw this and thought of you" treat.
And one final suggestion...
Make closet clean-out day a joint effort. Weed out together and donate the unwanted stuff to those in need. Present it as a feel-good way to start the year. Toss anything "meh" or too small, tight, baggy, boxy, worn, stained or just plain out of date. Purge ratty underwear and socks, bulky white lace-up sneakers (OK on millennials, not us), clunky square-toe shoes, college sweatshirts, ill-fitting old suits (even "designer" label ones), wide ties, dad jeans (aka mom jeans). Leave his coveted collection of cowboy boots or baseball caps alone. Post pics of the new stylish him often on Facebook. He'll adore the attention.