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‘Sopranos’ Star Lorraine Bracco at 70: What I Know Now

The husky-voiced actress riffs on Bette Davis, her first comedic role and missing James Gandolfini


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Lorraine Bracco made a belated American film debut at age 33 in The Pick-up Artist in 1987. More film roles followed for the English-Italian actress, and she broke through three years later, as a melodramatic mob wife in Martin Scorsese’s iconic Goodfellas. The role earned her Oscar and Golden Globe nods; her husky voice became her signature quirk. Steady work followed in Medicine Man and Radio Flyer (1992), Even Cowgirls Get the Blues (1993), The Basketball Diaries and Hackers (1995), during which Bracco fought a highly publicized custody battle for daughter, Stella, with longtime beau, actor Harvey Keitel, that left her bankrupt and clinically depressed. (She also has a daughter, Margaux, with first husband, Daniel Guerard.)

In 1999, Bracco would find astounding success again as psychiatrist Jennifer Melfi in one of the most influential TV series of all time, HBO’s The Sopranos — she was nominated for four Emmys and three Golden Globes during the show’s six-season run.

More small-screen success arrived in 2010 as the mom in the long-running TNT crime drama Rizzoli & Isles, after which Bracco trekked to Italy to renovate a dilapidated home and document the travails for HGTV in My Big Italian Adventure.

Now, Bracco, 70, takes her Italian genes to the little screen again in the Netflix comedy Nonnas, based on a true story about a bunch of Italian grandmas cooking in a restaurant in New York City. Bracco recently spoke to AARP for the April/May issue of AARP The Magazine.

Eye of beholder

I was voted Ugliest Girl on the school bus in sixth grade. It was painful. I went home sobbing and said to my parents, “I’m never going to school again.” My father sat me on his lap, picked up my chin and said, “You’re the most beautiful girl in the world to me.” It helped … a little.

Go for it

My father always pushed me to try. When I was 19 and wanted to go to Paris and model, my mother was hesitant. But my father was like, “Here’s some money! Here’s your return ticket!” There’s no harm in trying, he taught me. So I did.

Embrace Paris

Paris in the ‘70’s was an amazing time, exploding with talent, humor, movies, comedians, singers, and of course … fashion. It was when Jean Paul Gaultier, Claude Montana, Thierry Mugler, KENZO and Saint Laurent exploded onto the scene. It was magnificent!

Ray Liotta and Lorraine Bracco
Ray Liotta and Lorraine Bracco in "Goodfellas" in 1990. It was a breakout film for both actors.
Courtesy Everett Collection

Couture advice

The best style advice I learned in Paris was: Don’t overindulge. Have one great bag. Have a great pair of rain shoes, because it rains a lot, one great raincoat, a trench coat. A pair of boots. That is the French way, but it’s good advice for everyone, all over the world.

Mangia, mangia

My parents married when my father was in England — Mom was English and my father was Italian. My mother was a war bride. She learned how to make meatballs, spaghetti, sauce, from my father’s mom and grandmother. Growing up, my siblings and I would chuckle because we never knew: Are we having meatballs or are we having tea? I’m always up for a good meatball.

Eating clean

I try to eat farm-to-table, not a lot of processed foods. When I go to the café down the block from my house in Sambuca, Sicily, they don’t give you a menu with 500 things. They say, “We have pasta with wild asparagus; that’s what’s in season.” So that’s what you’re served.

Body aware

There are times when I’ve put on 15, 20 pounds, and it’s my fault because I’m not paying attention or not caring. I think Pilates is great, and I try to walk a lot — I walk, walk, walk.

Au naturel

I was never a girl who looked in the mirror. I am what I am, I put a little lipstick on, a little blush, and I’m out the door.

Role models

My parents were movie buffs. Judy Garland was big in my house, but my favorite was Bette Davis. I loved how she could transform herself from an ugly duckling into a beautiful swan. I think being voted Ugliest Girl in sixth grade had a lot to do with why I adored her.

Doctor is in

I lost a year of my life to depression, and my advice to anyone going through it is get a good doctor, get diagnosed, and know that pharmacology works — don’t be afraid of it. The stigma of it stopped me at first. Stupid. And talk therapy is major. You’re worth it, you’re worth having a good day, every day.

The Sopranos
“Last year was the 25th anniversary of ‘The Sopranos,’ and people still call out, ‘Hey, Doc!’ when they see me on the street," Lorraine Bracco says. "I love it.”
HBO/Courtesy Everett Collection

Remember friends

Last year was the 25th anniversary of The Sopranos, and people still call out, “Hey, Doc!” when they see me on the street. I love it. It means my role as Dr. Melfi meant something to them. When I think about the show, I don’t think about the success — I think about what I lost. I lost Jimmy [Gandolfini]. And for Goodfellas — which was 35 years ago—I lost Ray Liotta. I lost two people whom I worked with, whom I adored, whom I would jump up in the air and hug and kiss whenever I saw them. That’s what I think about.

Share success

One of the big things for me in my life, besides having children and grandchildren, is that my parents got to see my success. It warms my heart that I was able to bring them to the Oscars and all the openings of The Sopranos. It was very special for them, and for me.

The great beyond

I think there’s an afterlife. I believe that once we leave our body, which is nothing — ash, basically — we go on to have a great afterlife. I had a reading with psychic, John Edward, and my grandfather came through and teased me a little. I think we go on and see our friends and family. I have no problem with that at all.

Believe in love

I’m single, and I’m sure someone will arrive. I believe in love. What do I look for in a man? A sense of humor is extremely important. And I like a guy who’s sure of himself. I’m sure of myself, so I want him to be rock steady.

Mama’s lesson

The most important lesson I tried to teach my two daughters is that anything is possible. If I could do what I’ve done in my life, I told them, you can do anything. You are the only one who can stop yourself.

Serenity now

I like to plant. I find it very satisfying. It comes from my mother’s English side. I plant everything — I have a vegetable garden and flower gardens with peonies, tulips, morning glories, roses and rhododendrons. I build rock walls. It’s an accomplishment to me that you can put something in dirt, put a little water, and suddenly you have 50 hydrangeas. Amazing.

Day in a life

I love being home. I have the dogs. I cook, I garden. I feed the birds. I talk on the phone. I do Wordle. I do The New York Times Spelling Bee. I watch old movies. I love when it’s Oscar season and I get all the academy movies. I cook for people. My friends came over last night; I made a nice little dinner.

Real-life nonna

Being a grandmother is so much fun, because you relive a part of you that’s been dormant for a while. We play, we read, we talk. As long as I can get down on the floor and get back up again, I’m good.

Funny bone

Nonnas is a comedy, a true story about this guy who opens a restaurant with a bunch of nonnas. I’ve never, ever done a comedy before, so this was big for me. I was nervous; I didn’t know where to start. The director (Stephen Chbosky, 55) gave me these ugly glasses, and I said: “I look terrible, what are you doing to me?” He said, “Lorraine, trust me.” He was hysterical, laughing behind the camera. Vince Vaughn kept saying, “Lorraine, you’re doing great! Just commit! Believe!” It’s a character that, never in a million years, I thought I’d play. ­

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