How Healthy Is Your Sex Life?

30 to 36 — Whoa! You’ve managed to stay connected and passionate over the years. It can’t hurt to go back over the statements you marked as sometimes or rarely and see what else you can do to heat things up even more. And if you scored a perfect 36? You’re sizzling!

21-29 — Pretty good. You’ve sustained a lot of your sexual energy and you are both still interested enough to stoke the fires. Look over what you found missing, make a list of the things each of you would like to share and see how you can add spark to your sex life.

20 or below — You’re traveling on parallel tracks, an all-too-common pattern in long-term marriages. The good news is that you recognize what’s wrong and want to change. Ask your partner to take the quiz and compare notes. Can you change just one thing this week? If talking about sex is too difficult or frustrating, or if you end up in a sparring match, make an appointment with a couple’s counselor. There’s no reason why you can’t have the sex life you always wanted. And it’s never too late to start.

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