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In-Home Care: Helping Loved Ones Age in Place

5 steps for keeping older family members comfortable and safe, in their home or yours


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Three-quarters of older adults want to stay in their home and communities as they get older, according to AARP's December 2024 "Home and Community Preferences Survey."

Family caregiving is a key component to making that wish a reality. 

Helping a loved one age in place may mean anything from stopping by a parent's home to check in every few days to assisting a spouse or partner with tasks such as bathing and meal prep, as well as activities including medication management and administering injections. Whatever level of care you provide, these tips can help you help your loved one remain at home for as long, and as comfortably, as possible.

1. Develop a plan

Planning for both the short and long term is important. You need to stay on top of the daily stuff, the doctor appointments and prescription refills while thinking through the what-ifs of your relative's age and condition.

You can't anticipate every scenario, but being forward-thinking now will help you respond more quickly and effectively in an emergency. And don't go it alone. Reach out to form a larger team of family, friends and others who can help you.

Determine tasks and find consensus. Ask team members what they're willing to do to contribute to the individual's care. Even if they live far away, they can handle jobs such as paying bills, ordering prescriptions and scheduling medical appointments. Work with them on a plan.

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Be honest with yourself. What are you prepared to do? If you are uncomfortable with hands-on caregiving tasks, such as helping a family member bathe, ask if another team member can step in, or discuss whether money is available to hire a professional.

Summarize the plan in writing. A written record will ensure that everyone on your team, including your loved one, is on the same page, thus avoiding misunderstandings. Remember, of course, that the plan will likely evolve; update it as time passes.

Make a back-up plan. If you are the primary caregiver, work with your loved one and other family members to create a contingency plan should you be unavailable or ill when caregiving help is required.

Review legal documents. Both you and your loved one can fill out health care surrogate and financial documents so that you are able to pay bills on their behalf and make decisions about their health care should they be unable to.

2. Make adaptations for safety's sake

If the person you're caring for has difficulty getting around or has compromised vision or hearing, you'll need to consider ways to make the home less hazardous.

Consider consulting a professional, such as an occupational therapist, geriatric care manager or an aging-in-place specialist, who can assess the home and make recommendations. Be alert to changing needs over time.

Make simple fixes for fall prevention. Some basic, low-cost changes include removing trip hazards like throw rugs, making sure the home is well lit (use automatic night-lights) and installing items such as adjustable shower seats, grab bars and handrails. It's a good idea to set up a medical alert system so your loved one is able to call for help.

Fine-tune the plan to account for dementia. Dementia brings with it particular worries about wandering and self-injury, but there are many ways to reduce risks. Examples include installing remote door locks, disabling the stove when it's not in use and keeping the water heater temperature to 120 degrees Fahrenheit or less.

Modify more extensively if necessary. When physical limitations are more severe, you may need to hire a contractor to make structural changes, such as installing wheelchair ramps, creating adjustable countertops and widening doorways.

Continue to evaluate their living situation. There may come a time when your loved one’s home is no longer able to meet their needs. As you weigh decisions, ask yourself these 5 questions about moving your parent into your home.

3. Manage health care needs

Caring for an aging or chronically ill relative can mean performing some basic medical tasks and keeping track of a confusing mix of medications for a range of ailments. The key is to stay organized and know how to get the help you need.

Stay on top of meds. Create and maintain an updated medication list with the name, dosage, prescribing doctor and other relevant information — a handy document to bring to medical appointments.

Be ready to handle medical tasks. In the aftermath of a loved one's hospitalization, many family caregivers find themselves performing challenging tasks at home, such as injecting medicines and inserting catheters. Get detailed instructions and even a demonstration of how to do necessary procedures before you leave the hospital.

Prepare for emergencies. Prepare a home medical kit and, if you live in an area prone to extreme weather, an emergency go-kit. Consider putting plans in place in case evacuation is necessary.

Set up home health services. Medicare will cover certain in-home services deemed medically necessary, including part-time or intermittent skilled nursing care, or physical, occupational or speech therapy. A patient who is considered homebound, or who is unable to make an office visit, may qualify for these services on an ongoing basis.

4. Maintain a healthy lifestyle

Caregiving can become all-consuming, especially if you are sharing a home with the person you're caring for. You may find yourself playing nurse, life coach, nutritionist and social director.

All of these roles are important for maintaining your loved one's mental and physical health. Just don't neglect your own.

Address social needs. Isolation and loneliness are associated with poorer health; helping your family member and yourself avoid them is a key part of caregiving. You could find a community arts program for seniors, invite friends and relatives to visit, or go out to eat together.

Manage nutrition. Be conscious of any dietary restrictions, and encourage your loved one to maintain a balanced diet and avoid processed foods. Look into home-delivered meal programs, and be sure the person drinks plenty of fluids, as dehydration can cause fainting, headaches and more conditions.

Encourage exercise. Staying mobile can help older people maintain strength, balance, energy and brain health, among other things. Your loved one's abilities will vary, and you should check any exercise regimen with a doctor, but the routine might include activities like walking, seated yoga, swimming or lifting small weights.

Establish boundaries. Everyone needs a level of privacy, especially if the person you're tending to lives with you and your spouse or partner. Ideally, you should have some separation between living areas and be able to schedule time together as a couple.

5. Get help

Depending on the severity of your loved one's problems, you may need a bit of assistance — or a whole lot of it.

Rely on your team for help with some caregiving tasks and to fill in so you can take breaks. Don't feel guilty: Your own health — and the quality of your caregiving — will suffer if you try to do everything and don't take time for yourself.

Ask friends and family members for help. Plenty of people in your life will be happy, or at least willing, to lend a hand if you ask. Maybe someone could pick up a prescription for you on the next trip to a nearby shopping center, or a neighbor could stop by with dinner once a week.

Farm out some household jobs. Consider paying for relatively small services that will relieve your burden, such as a weekly housecleaning, yard care or grocery delivery. If you live apart from your loved one, you could do the same for your home.

Hire in-home care. You can go through an agency or hire a caregiver directly, but either way, be sure to check references and background, and monitor performance carefully. Cautionary tales abound. It's smart to rely on word of mouth. Ask fellow caregivers for recommendations.

Watch your mental health. As a caregiver, you are at a higher risk for stress and depression. If either grows serious, seek help from a mental health professional. And consider reaching out to other caregivers for support and advice.

AARP Resources

Toll-free caregiver support line has agents that can guide you to resources. The lines are staffed Monday-Friday, 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. ET at 1-877-333-5885, or in Spanish at 1-888-971-2013

An Initiative with United Way connects caregivers to resources in their state or community. Check out the online family resource guides with directories of services or call 211 for advice.

Family Caregivers Discussion Group is an active Facebook community where offers caregivers a place to connect, share stories and advice. The AARP website also has an online caregiving community where caregivers can interact with other caregivers.

Livable Communities’ HomeFit guides has ideas on adjustments to makes to a house to make it safe for those that want to age-in-place.

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