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How to Take Control of Your Parents’ Tech Remotely

When someone is struggling with their device, you can provide help from afar


Video: How to Control Your Parents’ Computer Remotely with Elisabeth Leamy

Your mom calls and says, “My keyboard is broken. When I press the keys, nothing happens, and the picture on my screen says: ‘404 Error, Page Not Found.’ ”

Your dad calls and says, “I was watching a movie on cable, and the power went out. The power’s back on now, but the screen says: ‘Your TV is not connected to the internet.’ ”

If you live nearby, you can hop in the car and assist in person. But what if your parent lives across the country? You can still help fix the problem — without being in the room.

Dozens of computer applications allow you to remotely access devices in other people’s homes — with their permission, of course. These programs can connect you to any computer and allow you to view its screen on yours and control its functions.

If you work for a large company, you may have been on the receiving end of this technology when your laptop was acting up and the computer experts there took control of your machine to fix the problem. Troubleshooting is easier via remote access than having someone describe a problem over the phone.

Windows 10 and 11 PCs have remote app built in

On a Windows personal computer, a remote application is part of the version 10 and 11 operating systems. Each user — the one helping and the one needing help — presses these three keys simultaneously: ^Ctrl, Windows ⊞ logo and Q without the shift key.

The Windows Quick Assist app will appear in a pop-up window. It creates a code that the person helping shares with the person needing help.

Once the latter enters the code, the helper gets remote access to the other person’s computer.

Microsoft provides detailed instructions on how to use this app on its training website. Select Working With Quick Assist and follow the steps provided for the Support staff (“helper”) or the user (“sharer”).

Other alternatives: If you use an Apple Mac computer or have a PC with an older version of Windows, many free apps are available to provide remote access. Some examples: AnyDesk, Chrome Remote Desktop, DWService, HelpWire and TeamViewer.

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Set up a box for Mom, app for you to give TV help

Remote controls are often complicated and modern TVs have so many settings that anyone can inadvertently press the wrong button and get stuck in an unwanted mode.

A service called JubileeTV lets you access another person’s TV with your smartphone. After setting up its hardware hub on your next visit, you’ll be able to switch channels, adjust the volume and change other settings on their TV, no matter where you are.

But it isn’t free, requiring a $199 set-top box and a $29 monthly or $269 annual subscription (or $699 for a lifetime membership without recurring fees) that includes additional functions, such as video calling and the ability to send photos from phone to TV.

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Show a smartphone user how to navigate

Some apps allow you to help others figure out their phones from afar.

For Android smartphones, AirMirror offers screen mirroring, which lets you view the screen of another Android device from your phone. It also has remote control, allowing you to control another Android device from your phone.

Other apps, such as TeamViewer and AirMore, can work between Android and Apple devices.

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Keep cybersecurity top of mind

Security should always be front and center because of the power and personal information inside computers, smartphones and even smart TVs.

If you’re helping out a loved one, make sure that you’ve called or are on the phone simultaneously as you’re assisting.

If you’re getting help, make sure you recognize the person who is requesting access to your device and confirm your request. If you have any question about the legitimacy of the request, deny it.

Also, don’t give remote access to your device to someone you don’t know who calls you over the phone, no matter how official the person may seem.

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