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5 Military Spouse Secrets to Landing a Great Job When You’re On the Move

A frenetic, ever-changing lifestyle gives you employable skills


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You relocate every two to three years and your schedule is always in flux. You’re also often the sole parent responsible for family matters while your spouse is working or away.

Military spouses juggle all this and often make exceptional employees. 

Monica Fullerton, CEO of Spouse-ly, wasn’t always an Air Force wife. In fact, she had big dreams to be the next Oprah. But after a communications degree, she reconnected with her high school sweetheart, who happened to be in the military.

So she accepted a corporate job in logistics, instead of following a broadcast journalism path, to ensure they could be together. 

“I was lost, because we all know — if you’re going to live the military life — what that means, especially for spouses who oftentimes put their own career dreams and goals to the side,” she told AARP Experience Counts.

Now, Fullerton runs a business supporting businesses of other military members and their spouses’. Spouse-ly is an online marketplace for products and services created by military and first responder families.

Here are Fullerton’s secrets to making change and relocation work for you:

1. Reframe your situation as your biggest asset

You think outside the box. You adapt and overcome. Those are great worker traits. "Military spouses are uniquely designed to excel as entrepreneurs,” says Annie Peguero, founder of the Lion’s Garden Coaching and Consulting Group and a Marine Corps spouse of over 13 years.

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“We’re innovative, out-of-the box thinkers who don’t need an invitation to get stuff done and also know when it’s time to slow down and lean into what’s best for our family.”

2. Strategically reveal your status to future employers

Just like announcing a pregnancy, it can feel daunting and even potentially risky to share your situation with potential employers. Fullerton recommends not leading with that detail but revealing it when the time is right.

It worked for her: Even pre-pandemic and before the popularity of remote work, her employer responded with significant support when she told him she’d have to move, making a remote work option for her where there hadn’t been one. He didn’t want to lose her, and that’s the type of company you want to prioritize searching for.

Corie Weathers, a counselor and author of the book Military Culture Shiftadvises to make it an asset. She did this once and was brought on as the company’s military liaison in addition to getting the job.

3. Take a job ‘close’ to your career goals

It might not be perfect, but the strategy helps you get or keep your foot in the door. “Especially if you are at the beginning of your career, be willing to take a job that is ‘close’ to your career goals,” Weathers says.

“All of our experience weaves into a tapestry that can lead to a creative career,” she says. She took a job at the front desk of a counseling clinic when she couldn’t get a job counseling clients yet. “I was able to learn what it takes to run a practice and add a job to my résumé that would show my commitment to the profession.”

4. Choose a field that captures your true passion

Unfortunately, Fullerton isn’t Oprah. But her original reason for wanting to be Oprah was about the power of communication, she says. She got to harness that when she built Spouse-ly and points to getting to the heart of what you are trying to do rather than being stuck on a certain path or industry. In turn, this allows you more flexibility to pivot with your military spouse’s job demands.

5. Focus on the benefits of a mobile life

There are perks to being on the go and on the move. For one, your employer can benefit from your broader scope and perspective, in that you might be able to speak to how different regions view a topic or business where others couldn’t. 

​“Although moving around frequently makes certain opportunities feel impossible at times, it's actually a great way to grow both personally and professionally,” Fullerton says. “All of the new things you learn along the way, and the new people who become a part of your journey, can continue to help you get to where you want to go.”

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