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I Went to a Breathwork Class and Left Transformed

This wellness practice had me dreaming about skulls and pandas, but it was a key to my manifestation journey


A collage shows nine images inspired by Melina Bellows’ breathwork experience, including an owl
Author Melina Bellows‘ collage art is part of her manifestation journey. Here she‘s included nine images inspired by her breathwork experience, a meditative practice which she says “is all about going into a dream state and looking for hidden things.”
Melina Bellows

I felt like I was in one of those dreams where I’m about to get fired — except I was wide awake, standing in front of a black door in New York City’s Chelsea neighborhood. I was about to enter a class that promised to teach me the secret to something every living person naturally knows how to do: breathe. 

Breathwork was the next stage of my manifestation journey. (Follow my journey beginning here.) Manifestation is the belief that you can align your thoughts, emotions and actions to achieve your goals. I’d begun my manifestation journey a year ago, when I became an empty nester and was between jobs. My goals: pursue joy and live my best life.

Since beginning the journey, a lot has changed. I’ve become kinder to myself. I catch myself mid-self-critique to ask, “Would I harsh on my goldendoodle like that?” 

I’ve also gotten into the habit of reframing everything that happens to me as happening for me, as if the universe is rigged in my favor. And suddenly it will seem exactly that way: My house sold after six months on the market; inconvenient plans were automatically canceled; I lucked into half-price plane tickets to take my kids to Italy.

And yet, I wondered: Could I go deeper with my manifesting? Stop overthinking and let my heart and soul power the journey?

Using ayahuasca (a plant-based brew containing psychoactive properties) and psilocybin to bypass the busy brain and access deeper personal truths sounds intriguing, but I’m not up for psychedelics. Instead, I turned to something more accessible: breathwork.

Long before today’s health gurus promoted it as a drug-free path to stress relief and spiritual growth, breathwork anchored several ancient wellness traditions in places such as India and Tibet. The technique popping up at contemporary wellness studios uses controlled breathing patterns with the goal of calming the mind, shifting consciousness and supporting healing.

My friend Rebecca introduced me to Eleonora Berenyi, a breathwork facilitator who teaches classes in New York City at a studio called Official Ritual. Before answering her spiritual calling, Eleonora worked as an art director in advertising, living a very different kind of life. But after losing her father at the age of 23, she began her healing journey and ultimately devoted herself to helping others. 

Once inside the black door, I paid the $47 class fee, relinquished my phone in a magnetically sealed pouch and headed to a dim back room. About 10 of us, split evenly by gender, were greeted by Eleonora, a smiling young Hungarian woman dressed in white linen and colorful beads. She was warm and welcoming and went out of her way to make each of us feel like we belonged there. 

Breathwork facilitator Eleonora Berenyi teaches at meditation center Official Ritual in New York City.
Courtesy Eleonora Berenyi

She invited us to set an intention. A young man wanted to heal from heartbreak. I simply said I wanted to let go of anything that no longer served me.

Eleonora demonstrated the three-part breathing technique: Inhale into the belly, then into the chest, and exhale through the mouth. “Breath is the portal,” she explained. “When you override the analytical mind by focusing on the rhythm of your breath, you drop into the subconscious, where your true power lives. That’s where real manifestation begins — not with thought, but with presence.”

Was this the same thing as hyperventilating? Isn’t that something I should avoid doing? What if I pass out? I was about to find out.

With our eye masks on, we lay on foam mats arranged head-to-head. Intense tribal beats and chanting streamed from the speakers. Over the next 30 minutes, Eleonora asked us to visualize chakra colors, our spirit animals, our inner child and Mother Earth. 

My mouth went dry from the rigorous breathing. My hands tingled — a side effect, Eleonora had warned us, of shifts in oxygen intake. The floor vibrated. (Later I learned that she was using a large tuning fork on the ground.)

Then things started to get weird. The left side of my face twitched uncontrollably. I drifted into a dreamlike state, aware that I was dreaming. In my vision, I was in a go-kart led by pandas that turned into skulls, guiding me through a tunnel of bones. I remained calm, observing. I silently asked that my gifts be used to help others in this lifetime. 

Eventually Eleonora brought us back. We sat up and drank tea to ground ourselves. A young woman across from me placed her palms flat on the floor, as if to keep from floating away.

“Wow,” I said, slipping off my eye mask. I felt like I was suddenly awake after an overnight flight.

Strange as it sounds, breathwork isn’t just for spiritual seekers. According to a New York Times article, elite athletes including NBA star Steph Curry and Pittsburgh Steelers quarterback Aaron Rodgers use focused breathing to boost performance and manage stress.

 “Your breath is the only tool that’s free, always with you, and scientifically proven to shift your biochemistry,” Eleonora said.

Feeling both exhausted and excited, I wanted to delve deeper. The next day I signed up for another workshop: the Summer Solstice Ancestral Healing Breathwork Ceremony. The three-hour class promised to harness the longest day of the year to release what no longer serves us and to welcome expansion, light and clarity. Eleonora described it as a sacred time to connect with our ancestors and rewire old emotional patterns. We would breathe with intention, call in divine guidance and offer healing not just for ourselves but for the generations that came before and after us.

Little did I know that I was about to be given a life-changing treasure.

AARP essays share a point of view in the author’s voice, drawn from expertise or experience, and do not necessarily reflect the views of AARP.

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