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While on excursions with my best friend, each time we take our seats — whether at a restaurant, special event or poolside — she takes the best one. Every. Single. Time.
If there’s a seat with a view or that boasts any other advantage, she grabs it. When we share a vacation rental, she brings a pillow. As soon as she walks through the door, she places the pillow on her preferred seat on the couch and leaves it there the entire stay, as if to designate her spot.
When she comes to my house and we want to watch TV from the dinner or game table, she takes the seat in full view of the TV. When I go to her house, she does the same.
We attend a book club together and while the group mingles before we sit down for dinner, she scopes out the dining table and places her drink where she plans to sit.
During one such gathering, while many hands worked in a communal effort to prepare the food, she sat at the table, securing her seat and waiting for her meal.
Not once have I ever seen her leave the best seat at the table for someone else to enjoy. Her display of entitlement leaves me seething, and her selfishness is hard for me to endure.
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