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“Dating over 50 has been a completely different experience than dating in my 20s, before marrying my husband,” says Charlotte Simpson, a 65-plus, Indianapolis-based influencer who chronicles her journey of solo traveling — and dating along the way — as a widow to her 27.8k followers. After 31 years of marriage to her soulmate, Simpson says her priorities have shifted significantly.
“It’s such a relief not to have a checklist of requirements in a mate anymore. Now, it’s freeing to simply enjoy the moments and companionship,” she says, adding that, in her case, she enjoys not having the pressure of long-term plans, children, blended families, building careers or retirement planning.
Whether coming out of a divorce, navigating life as a widow or being on the dating scene as an older adult, many people 50-plus are discovering that dating later in life brings new opportunities … and challenges.

Simpson and other senior dating influencers are here to help with tips to make it as smooth as possible, whether you’re seeking a serious relationship or just looking for companionship this Valentine's Day and beyond.
Embrace the apps
If you were previously coupled up, you may have met your former partner before dating apps were all the rage — Tinder didn’t launch until 2012, for instance. Thus, you may have some hesitations about hopping on one. It’s time to get over that, says Wendy Walsh, 62, a professor of health psychology at California State University, Channel Islands, who shares her best dating tips on Instagram to 115k followers.

“My best advice here is to dump the stigma! Everybody is on the apps,” says Walsh, who is also a relationship expert for DatingAdvice.com, a website that provides dating advice and resources.
She adds that trying to get flirty with someone in public may even catch them off guard or make them feel uncomfortable in this day or age. “It feels creepy and may even feel like sexual harassment,” adds Walsh. “So, if you’re single of any age, a dating app is the place to start.”
If apps are a definite no go for you, there are ways to meet people in person, such as signing up for a volunteer event or going to a singles mixer.
Be authentic
Resist the urge to lie about your age. There’s research that shows if any relationship begins with a lie, it is very difficult to establish trust later, Walsh says. She encourages people to be as honest and authentic as possible. “Remember, the apps allow people to search by age. You don’t have to be self-conscious about your age because if you’ve matched on an app, they’re looking for someone like you!” Walsh explains.
Raleigh, North Carolina-based matchmaker and dating and relationship coach Holly McCusker, 52, who talks everything from breakup grief to transforming your love life on Instagram, agrees, saying you should craft a profile that reflects your authentic self, focusing on your current passions and what you’re looking for in this stage of life. “Be sure to disclose important aspects of yourself, such as whether you have children or grandchildren,” she says. “Also, don’t try to hide parts of yourself, as your goal is to create authentic connections.”
And don’t pretend you’re interested in things you’re not. “Being true to yourself and doing what matters is most important. Why pretend to be someone else when you're the most slay version?" says 94-year-old dating influencer Grandma Droniak, who puts a comedic spin on her latest dating adventures for her 3.4 million Instagram followers and 14.7 million on TikTok.

Rethink what you want
“Unlike when we are younger and looking for forever partners with whom we can build a life and family with, many of us 50-plus come with children and lives that are already pretty well established,” adds Laura Williams, a 54-year-old New York City resident and author of Available: A Memoir of Sex & Dating After a Marriage Ends, who talks sex, dating and divorce on Instagram.
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