So, you're ready to dive into the dating pool again at 50-plus. That first date might be a dating-site pick, a family fix up or a “let's grab a coffee” from a high school ex you friended on Facebook. Whatever the source, it's an audition. At the very least you'll get some practice and rediscover feelings and parts of yourself that may have been hidden (or lost) for years. At most you gain a new dinner companion or a blazing romance. And as Ariana Grande sings, if the first date doesn’t work, you can always bow out with a “thank you, next!” Here are nine empowering beauty and style tips to get you going.
1. Loosen up your hair
Hair is still a big part of physical attraction, but don't let thinning hair get in the way of sex appeal. Sensual hair moves. A swingy, glossy bob can be alluring — so can a cropped pixie with a just-ran-my-hands-through-it look. Count on any of the following for the right effect: beachy waves, springy curls, shaggy layers, a side part or flirty full bangs. This is not the time to pull your hair back in a tight ponytail or wear a hat. Trust three-times-married, beauty-editor me on this one.
2. Be high visibility from the waist up
You'll hopefully be meeting up in a public place like a coffee shop or cafe. Wear a scarf top or jacket that stands out in a crowd. A color that's energetic like a red is easy to spot and sends a friendly, approachable message. And text it ahead: “I'm by the bar wearing a big orange scarf."
3. Show off your best, keep the rest to yourself
Let's be honest, a waist adds appealing body definition. And if you have one, wear a belt to make that point. But if your torso isn't cooperating with crunches or your postmenopausal diet, focus on revealing your long elegant neck, your toned arms, spicy shoulders or long dashing legs. The extremities are always good eye-catching spots. Dig out those cold shoulder sweaters you bought last year, stack your bracelets, stick to V necks, or unbutton your shirt to just above the cleavage and wear leggings — leather ones are great even with a tunic sweater.
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