BET’s Sheila Johnson Details Her Business Triumphs and Personal Betrayals in ‘Walk Through Fire’

Then, the second act was cofounding BET with your then-husband, Robert L. Johnson.

I wanted to make sure that we had the best programming out there. I thought the video market and the way it was portraying women was horrific. I didn’t want young women to think they had to behave like that in these videos for men. I fought that. That was one of the fires I went through.

You write unsparingly about that marriage.

There were other women involved. It was severe betrayal. Once I got out of the marriage, I said, “You know what? I’m going to prove to the world that I can move forward and I can build a new company.”

And that’s your Act 3 — a hospitality company that includes a five-star resort called Salamander Middleburg in Virginia, and another you’ve opened in Washington.

I decided to go into the hotel business. I didn’t know anything about it, but I knew I wanted to do it. So what do you do? You bring in people that are smarter than you and have had the longevity of being in a business that they know how to help build. We now have seven hotels. And I’ll tell you, buying the hotel in Washington, D.C., the Mandarin, now a Salamander-branded hotel, set that city on fire in a great way.

What would you say to people 50-plus who haven’t yet found their path?

As my mother always said, “You need to just sit down, be quiet and think about what your next steps are going to be. Don’t rush into anything.” I think people who are trying to find themselves should make a list of what they’ve accomplished, what they want to accomplish, and the roadblocks in their life. I don’t think they should look at their lives as failures. But ask those hard questions.

After all that you’ve been through, how are you taking care of your mental health?

There are still days when I struggle with it. ... After my divorce, I went through a lot of therapy. And even writing this book, it was therapeutic for me. But I realized I am still not really over the trauma that I went through.

You are remarried now — to the judge who presided over your divorce. That’s a happy and unusual ending.

He [told me], “You’re carrying a lot of baggage right now. But I’ll help you work through it.” That impressed me. He knew more about what was going on in my life than I even knew. And I said, “You know what? I’ll give it another try.” And I just fell madly in love with him. I felt safe for the first time in my life.

You started as a violinist and music teacher. How do you cultivate creativity now?

While I was trying to figure out my third act, I really got into photography. I also designed scarves, and now we sell them. As we are redesigning the hotel in D.C., I’m very involved with the design. That’s what excites me:​being able to continue to create.

Has your business philosophy changed as you’ve gotten older?

After finishing with BET, it was learning how to be a real leader. Leadership is really key in building a successful company. I have been able to continue to watch and learn. When I went into the hotel business, I needed help. To be a strong leader, I needed to bring in the best and the brightest to help me build a company.

What advice would you give people about having a successful third act?

Learn to take risks. Also, failure is OK. That’s how you learn, no matter what age you are. I still fail at things every day. But I’m, like, “OK, let’s try to go in a different direction. It’s all right.”