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First, write your profile. Your story is key to finding someone special

En español | Whether you're newly single and a bit rusty, or you have been dating for a while, you probably joined a dating website hoping to meet someone special. As an experienced online dater, I know it works. I also know that an appealing profile is critical.

See also: The man's guide to dating after 50.

So how do you make yourself appealing? Start fresh. Do not use a favorite old photo and a bio from a previous online attempt; that's not smart online dating.

AARP dating website helps seniors meet online- a mature woman creates her profile on the dating website

To make yourself appealing in an online dating profile — be the person you want to meet. — Jed & Kaoru Share/Blend Images/Getty Images

The Photo
Professional photographs aren't necessary, but posting a cellphone photo taken at arm's length isn't cool, and using an old photo never makes for a pleasant surprise when you meet a date. Have a friend take photos, and don't wear sunglasses or a hat, or stand in shadows. Headshots work, but a potential date also wants to see the rest of you. And smile. Your picture is the first item on your menu. Think appetizing.

Do the Work
A profile that consistently states "I'll tell you later" rather than supplying answers to relevant questions is frequently passed by, no matter how good-looking the person in the photograph. It suggests a lack of interest in the whole dating process. And a photo without an accompanying detailed story is likely to preclude anyone from selecting you thoughtfully. Less is not more.

Attention to Detail
While I notice a woman's photo first, I also enjoy reading her story describing her 50-plus years of living and loving life. The better written and complete, the more appealing the story is. Can't write well? Get help from a friend or coworker who can. And there's no excuse for spelling or grammatical errors. Be noticed for the right reasons.

What to Limit
Your political attitude, while valid, need not be intolerant. Stating you aren't interested in someone with political views 180 degrees different from yours is fine, but adding that you find the view repugnant is over the top. Insisting that a potential date be fit and in shape is fair, if you're fit and in shape. While opposites may attract, my dating experience jibes with nearly every expert's advice: Such relationships rarely work. Differences become bigger, not smaller. The more you have in common, the better, really.

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