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More People Choose to Live Alone: 10 Great Reasons Why

'Spinster'? 'Bachelor'? No way! Make your own rules

Though I've been part of a couple for most of my adult life, I've spent enough time as a single lady to know what it's like. So I'm well aware of the drawbacks of the solo life, but I also know that it can be a time of exploration, adventure, sexual freedom and a good dose of well-deserved selfishness.

See also: 10 great cities for older singles.

AARP Expert Pepper Schwartz: The joys of living alone: dancing in the living Room

When living alone you may have freedoms you never even considered. — Photo by: Rob Lewine/Tetra images/Getty Images

In fact, I'd even go as far as saying that the joys of living alone are very much underappreciated. Yes, there are times when you feel lonely and even isolated. And singles must compromise to make their lives safer and enjoyable, but so do married people — and sometimes I think the married group actually has the tougher task.

In his book Going Solo, New York University sociologist Eric Klineberg found that people adapt very well to an uncoupled life.

So if you are single, whether by chance or by choice, change your perspective a little. There are creative ways to go it alone: shared housing; social activity groups; social media; reciprocal support from friendship circles.

The travel industry has begun easing restrictions on solo travelers, and mixed or single-sex tours for the unattached are soaring in popularity — Bahamas cruises, Provence wineries, Nepal trekking. In other words, with a circle of supportive friends and family, you can accomplish much the same that spouses and live-in relationships offer, and maybe more.

And if you still seek a relationship, who's to say it's not right around the corner? Not only might you meet someone on that group baseball outing, but dating websites have exploded, many free. Whether you seek a partner or just companionship, the options are as near as your keyboard. (And here are a few tips to make a great first date.)

But as long as you are living alone, here are a few of what I think are the bonuses:

1. Raiding the refrigerator at 1 a.m., knowing that mango sorbet is there for you and you alone.

2. Decorating as you please — no more "his" favorite orange recliner or "her" Twilight books front and center on the shelf.

3. Going to bed when you please and reading with the light as bright as you really need.

4. Dancing in the living room (naked? Why not?) and crooning in the shower without anyone laughing.

5. Spending all the time — alone! — in the bathroom as you need, spreading out your stuff, hogging the outlets and making any rude noises you need to.

6. Buying the food (clothes, movies, cars) you want, with your money, without worrying about someone else's tastes.

7. Having as many dogs, cats, ferrets or miniature ponies as you damn well please.

8. No more late-night calls from your partner's clients, relatives, children, grandchildren, tenants or exes ...

9. ... And on that note, getting to sleep in the middle — or even diagonally — ­ on the bed if you want, all by yourself, and no one tossing and turning next to you.

10. Not having to compromise on your dream of what city, neighborhood or type of housing you want to live in.

Next: Take control over your environment. »

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