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The Do-It-Yourself Obituary

To celebrate their lives, boomers are writing their own obits. Here’s how you can too

When you die, what will your obituary say? Leave it to others and you might get boilerplate: cause of death, biography, survivors and where to send donations. Wouldn’t you rather have your life story told the way you’d like it?

See also: Write your life story, maybe a best-seller.

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Tell your life story with these simple tips for writing an obituary. — Photo by Getty Images

Susan Soper of Atlanta certainly would — and that’s one of the reasons she developed the ObitKit, a handbook that offers a step-by-step process for creating a rich and personal obituary. (It also helps people plan their own funeral or memorial service).

Soper, who blogs for the obituary website, believes a growing number of boomers are writing their own exit lines. “Baby boomers like to be in control,” she says. “They know what they want, and they want it the way they want it. Plus I think our generation has more of a celebrate-your-life mentality.”

But how do you compose your own final send-off? Soper herself, for example, needed several stabs to fill out the very ObitKit she devised. Luckily, help abounds. Consider these options:

  • Take a class: Larken Bradley, an obit writer for the West Marin Citizen, teaches adult ed workshops north of San Francisco for $25. An online class at the Story Circle Network costs about $120. Obit-writing classes are individual, entrepreneurial efforts, so you’ll have to search the Web to find a class near you. You can also send a query to the Society of Professional Obituary Writers, a group of newspaper reporters with a passion for the craft — and a sense of humor about their undertaking (ha ha!), which they describe as “for folks who write about the dead for a living.”
  • Hire a professional obit writer: They aren’t large in number, but you can find obit writers for hire — among them former entertainment reporter Katharine Blossom Lowrie. Soper and Bradley, too, write “custom” obits. Soper’s final version of an obituary will set you back $200 to $500 or more; Bradley charges $125 an hour. Writing styles range widely, so read sample obits before signing up any hired gun.

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