Su Reiser, who was about to turn 65, had questions. She lives in New Jersey with her husband, Carl, 69, and her daughter, Rebecca, 28, who has autism and Tourette’s syndrome. Through a state program, Reiser is Rebecca’s paid caregiver, and she’d like to keep doing that. When should she take Social Security, and does she need to claim it to qualify for Medicare? What sort of Medicare plan would be best? That last question is urgent: Recently diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease, Reiser wants to prepare for the worst.