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Test Your Movie Music Moxie
FORTY YEARS AGO, Kenny Loggins’ “Danger Zone” shot up the pop singles chart, thanks to the blockbuster film Top Gun. The ’80s were a prime decade for soundtrack songs. Match these:
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A PRODUCTIVE SUMMER FOR A COLLEGE STUDENT
Setting expectations is key to avoiding conflict
COLLEGE STUDENTS on summer break often want just that: a break. Their parents, meanwhile, typically want to see them gaining valuable experience, whether by working, volunteering or simply getting out of the house.
The problem boils down to “a mismatch of expectations,” says Alyson Schafer, a family counselor and parenting expert in Kingston, Ontario. We asked experts how to set rules for summer without needlessly causing strife.
Get them thinking: In advance of summer break, ask your child, “What would you like to accomplish?” recommends Shane G. Owens, a board-certified psychologist on Long Island, New York. If they don’t have a response, help them strategize. Maybe you know someone who could use their assistance around the office. Just be sure you’re not offering so much help that you kill their initiative, warns Schafer.
Set ground rules: Brice Meade, 53, told his college-student daughter that she’s welcome to stay with him over break—as long as she works a summer job and saves half her earnings for the future. Meade also looks for chances to be active and engage with his kid, suggesting a walk together or dinner out. Meade admits, “Strategically, I don’t keep a lot of food in the house so we can have those moments.”
Stand your ground: If you have agreed on a set of expectations for the summer and your child has not put in the effort, then perhaps they should look for a different arrangement elsewhere, says Schafer. Still, keep different ages and maturity levels in mind. And be prepared for some pushback. —Robin L. Flanigan