Financial Tips for Unmarried Couples

Once considered scandalous, living together hardly raises an eyebrow anymore, even when it’s Grandma doing it.
 
“I knew I wanted to share the rest of my life with him,” says Julie Lopp, 74, who has lived with Don Bushnell, 85, for 14 years. “We love one another but we don’t need to get married.” The Santa Barbara, Calif., couple had both been married before, and both have two grown children.

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Just like young couples, older people have a mix of incentives for setting up housekeeping in tandem. Mutual attraction of course tops the list, but finances are often another driving force and can lead to complications down the road.

So before you take the leap:

1. Document your arrangement on paper. “Don’t go into it without a written cohabitation agreement, much like a ‘pre-nup,’ ” says Daniel Timins, a certified financial planner and estate-planning attorney in White Plains, N.Y. This is especially important, he says, to protect the interests of your children or other kin.

Best drawn up by a lawyer and notarized, the agreement should spell out financial responsibilities — such as who pays what portion of the household expenses, how assets and debts will be divided if you break up, and who gets the deductions for mortgage interest and property taxes.

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2. Update your wills. An unmarried partner does not automatically inherit the other’s estate, so if you want that to happen, you must change your will accordingly. You can also name your partner as the beneficiary of your retirement funds and life insurance policies. Before you do this, however, make very sure that “your relationship has been thoroughly tested,” says Timins.

Make the right financial decisions before moving in together.

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3. Keep assets separate. At least in the beginning, do this to avoid disputes later, says Timins. This is a particular concern for older people, who tend to have more assets than younger singles. Maintain your own checking and savings accounts, credit cards, car payments, memberships, etc.