Thousands of older Americans are eager to enter the dating scene but haven't figured out the best way to do it. Others, actively dating, long to expand their pool of possible partners.
If you're in one of those groups, you're probably hoping to find your special someone — and wondering, Where can he or she be?
But take heart if online dating sites put you off, for many ordinary places make excellent potential meeting grounds.
You may have to stretch your normal behavior — that is, you may have to reach out, assert yourself, be creative, act strategically and think outside the box. But if you're willing to do all that, frequenting these six sites can boost your odds of a productive encounter:
1. On the job
Caution and discretion are required to sustain a relationship at the office — or in any other day-to-day workplace, for that matter.
For starters, what if things don't work out? It can be difficult — even hellish — to face each other (just ask Bridget Jones). And if romance does bloom, it may be hard to do your jobs when you're preoccupied with arranging "alone time."
But relationships can take root and thrive in this fertile meeting ground. My copywriter friend, Suzanne, started dating a fellow team member, Joe, at her advertising agency. Both were committed to their jobs, so they kept things secret for nearly a year, sitting apart at meetings and commuting to work separately — even after they had moved in together! Ultimately, Suzanne and Joe decided to get married, obviating the whole "workplace awkwardness" issue.
At conferences and work parties when I was single, I approached men who appeared to be alone. I went out with an instructor I talked to over the crabmeat canapés at a faculty event. At another, I struck up a conversation with the handsome, funny bartender, who happened to be an actor. We got to enjoy one dinner together before he was called to L.A. for film work.