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Handling Family Finances

Watch out if your spouse says, 'Honey, I'll take care of everything'

En español | I hate to say it of my gender, but women often don't pay enough attention to the family money. They're usually enabled by guys who like to manage things themselves. Both sides need to wake up. Family money is everybody's business.

I keep hearing stories about new widows, from traditional marriages, who gasp when they realize they'll now have to make financial decisions. And stories about husbands who lovingly say, "Don't worry, I'll take care of it," which doesn't prepare their wives for a life alone.

See also: Managing the family finances.

Couple reviewing bills - both husband and wife need to know how to manage family money

Married couples should become equally informed about finances. — Photo by Getty Images

Even younger wives might not know about their husband's investments or where the retirement income is likely to come from.

All too often, couples structure their household chores along gender lines — even if they both hold jobs. She does the cooking, and the laundry, handles the kids and maybe pays the bills. He decides on the insurance and investments, maintains the car and takes the garbage out. That makes no sense for either of them.

The issue comes to mind because of an email AARP forwarded to me. A woman misunderstood her coverage under her husband's retiree health insurance (he's in a nursing home) and mistakenly canceled the drug policy on the eve of her own cancer surgery. The company refused to reinstate her. Her children filed an appeal and, meanwhile, got her into Medicare Part D.

She recovered from the error. The company eventually reinstated her, so she is now able to choose between her old plan and Part D. Sometimes, however, mistakes can permanently change your life.

That's why both partners need to have a broad understanding of the finances, including husbands whose wives are the family wizards. The best way of learning is by doing. You might take turns paying bills. You each might handle part of the investments. By answering the following five questions together, you'll both be prepared.

1. What's your annual income and what does it cost to live? The first question on the mind of a widow (or widower) who hasn't paid much attention to money is, "Do I have enough?" It's terrifying not to know.

To forestall this shock, you and your spouse should create a budget file. Show all the sources of income available after the first spouse dies and the current annual amounts. Subtract your expenses, including taxes. That gives your survivor a road map, showing roughly how she (or he) should be able to get by.

To get your mind around how well you're jointly managing money today, consider signing up for one of the free money-management services online. You enter all your financial accounts — bank, investment, loan and credit card. The service tracks your income and outgo, and what your investments are worth.

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