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Online Dating Not Working for You?

Check the profiles of potential matches more closely and fine tune your search terms

Q: I have been on a number of dating sites. All the men want is someone to cook and clean and wash dirty underwear. None of them like baseball. They all want to stay at home or watch TV, etc. What happened to men who want a love of life? I am also not supporting someone who sits on his behind all day. If you have any advice for me, just toss it in the ring.

See also: 8 ways to find love online.

A: Where have you been looking: Couchpotatodate.com? Seriously, it might be the way you are picking profiles, because this isn't my impression of the online-dating world at all. Granted, there are some oddly disconnected characters out there, but they aren't the majority.

I really have some chops on your question: Not only am I the relationship expert on one of the larger sites, but the Web is where I found the man I am with now. Before that, when I was 55, I started dating online and fell in love several times with people I regard, even in retrospect, as truly worthy.

So why aren't you seeing these guys? I don't know. Maybe your search criteria isn't working for you. Try looking for keywords like "athletic," "active," "sports," "baseball fan," "independent," or "hyperactive." Search for results that filter for guys who like an active life — and aren't waiting around for Princess Charming to rescue them and set them up in some castle somewhere.

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