8 Ways to Find Love Online

• Enlist your friends. Ask for help when you're choosing a picture and filling out a profile form that tells potential dates who you are. You need an objective eye on this. You might think it's a great picture, but maybe your friend doesn't. Trust your friend. You may think your short rendition about yourself is enticing — but maybe it comes off as arrogant or too timid, or has too much about your kids and not enough about you. Give it to a few friends to review.

• Avoid clichés in your profile. You will discover why when you read what others write about themselves. There are just too many people out there who "like long walks on the beach" or "enjoy theater, fine restaurants and exotic travel." Whatever you write, make sure it expresses the goals, values and lifestyle choices that make you distinct.

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• Don't limit your options. Be judicious about how you answer questions about what you're looking for in a partner. Some sites ask about your "deal breakers," that is things you absolutely don't want. If you make your list of do's and don'ts too long, it will limit the possibilities. So only put seriously disqualifying or absolutely necessary things in that list. (For example, ditch the requirement that he has at least a master's degree but keep the one that says he can't be a smoker).

• Stay safe. When you find someone you are interested in — or someone finds you — exercise caution. At least initially, talk on your mobile phone instead of your home phone, which can be linked to your address. For a first date, meet in a safe public place — a coffee shop is ideal. Until you know the person better and are confident he is who he claims to be, don't let a date drive you anywhere or even walk you to your car if it's a secluded place. Though most people are honest and well-meaning, you shouldn't take any risks at all.

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