SCORING: Give yourself three points for each time you answered always, two for each usually and one for each rarely or never. If your total is:

32 to 36 — You have got the kind of marriage most experts would consider ideal. You're paying attention to all the right things: communication, affection and mutual respect. Lucky you!

24 to 31 — You figured out the difference between a good-enough marriage and a wonderful one. You're not afraid to express your true feelings because you're confident that your partner has your back.

16-23 — You may be pretty content in your relationship, but something needs attention. Are you sure you're communicating openly with one another? Are you paying attention to gestures of romance and affection that make a marriage strong? Talk to one another about areas of your relationship that need work — and get to it.

15 or below — Clearly there's a communication problem here, and maybe a few others as well. If this marriage is important to you and you can't make improvements on your own, you should consider professional counseling.