4. An aging body isn't sexy. We are our own worst enemy when we doubt our sexual allure just because we may be heavier or sag more than in our youth. But remember, sex isn't only about how you look. You become aroused when you stroke each other and kiss passionately. You fall in love with something witty, kind or romantic that your partner says. We don't need perfect bodies to be sexy to someone, but we can ruin our own enjoyment by presuming that others are as critical about our body as we are. As we get older we should be proud that we have bodies that work and that are still capable of bringing pleasure to a partner. So hop into bed with confidence and pride that will infuse you with sexiness.
5. Older people shouldn't have sex. For some reason, many people think sex belongs to the young. If that were the case, our whole species would lose all sexual feelings as they age — and we know that doesn't happen. We are clearly designed to live longer and better if we have an active sex life. Sexual contact correlates to better health, higher relationship satisfaction and easier stress management. So it is far from natural to stop wanting or having sex. Rather, our lives depend on us keeping our sexual energy and connection intact.