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How Healthy Is Your Marriage?

Take this quiz and assess the strength of your relationship

from: AARP, May 26, 2011

1. We can both tell when the other needs a little space — or a big hug.	Always Usually Rarely/Never

2. Even if things aren't going well, we can still make each other laugh.	Always Usually Rarely/Never

3. I feel that my partner listens to me and hears my concerns.	Always Usually Rarely/Never

4. We do things together in the evening or on weekends since our interests are so similar.	Always Usually Rarely/Never

5. Even if we don't have sex as often as we used to, we still make time to cuddle in bed or on the sofa.	Always Usually Rarely/Never

6. If we get angry at one another, we don't stay that way for long.	Always Usually Rarely/Never

7. When I'm really stressed or need advice about something, my partner helps me to feel better.	Always Usually Rarely/Never

8. When we leave in the morning, or return at the end of the day, we give each other a kiss.	Always Usually Rarely/Never

9. We make an effort to compliment and thank each other.	Always Usually Rarely/Never

10. I don't have to worry that my partner will do or say something to embarrass me.	Always Usually Rarely/Never

11. Even if we've been married many years, we still have great conversations.	Always Usually Rarely/Never

12. We like and respect one another's family.	Always Usually Rarely/Never

How did you do?

SCORING: You got three points for each time you answered always, two for each usually and one for each rarely or never. Look below to find out where your relationship stands, and no matter what your score, go to 5 Weeks to a New Life to get advice from top marriage experts.

32 to 36 — You have got the kind of marriage most experts would consider ideal. You're paying attention to all the right things: communication, affection and mutual respect. Lucky you!

24 to 31 — You figured out the difference between a good-enough marriage and a wonderful one. You're not afraid to express your true feelings because you're confident that your partner has your back.

16-23 — You may be pretty content in your relationship, but something needs attention. Are you sure you're communicating openly with one another? Are you paying attention to gestures of romance and affection that make a marriage strong? Talk to one another about areas of your relationship that need work — and get to it.

15 or below — Clearly there's a communication problem here, and maybe a few others as well. If this marriage is important to you and you can't make improvements on your own, you should consider professional counseling.