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Make It a Valentine's Day to Remember

Expert advice on how to make this holiday extra special and keep it going all year long

Question from Toren: My former boyfriend — from many moons ago — contacted me on Facebook. Our relationship didn't end well. What should I do? I'm now single, but still remember how he hurt me.

PS: Toren, I understand you hesitation, but that was then, this is now, and I bet you have both changed a lot. Some people do gain wisdom and self knowledge over the years. He may not be the same man that hurt you so badly. If he acknowledges it and feels badly about it, I would give him a second chance. Don't shut him down before you know who he is. So I'd be open.

Question from Sharlene: I saw an article about singles cruises. Is that really a good way to meet people?

PS: I think single cruises can be fun. But I would go with a friend, so if you don't meet someone special the two of you can have a great vacation anyhow. Check out this article by Peter Greenberg on singles cruises.

Question from Meg: Does coffee really hurt your sex drive?

PS: Actually, quite the contrary. It keeps you up. I actually did a poll among my friends. The coffee drinkers won hands down. But seriously, caffeine is a mild stimulant and should not interfere with your sexual ability.

Comment from William: Excellent advice. I'm learning so much here.

PS: It's been a pleasure talking to you all. I hope you will go to my column on Making the Most of Valentine's Day and follow me on Twitter @pepperschwartz.  I also encourage you to add your Valentine's Day ideas to our ongoing conversation on things to do on Valentine's Day at Naked Truth.

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