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Make It a Valentine's Day to Remember

Expert advice on how to make this holiday extra special and keep it going all year long

Question from Sandy: What do you do for Valentine's Day?

PS: Well if I can, I do some kind of getaway. I'll take any kind of speaking gig, if it is in a warm place, and ask my guy to go with me. Sometimes, I like dressing up, which we don't do very often and going out for a date to a special place. I'm also a big fan of going out early, so we are not too tired when we come home to give each other some extra attention as lovers.

Question from L.S.: What is your stance on acting out our fantasies? Any suggestions?

PS: Well L.S.,  these are your fantasies. I can't tell you how to act them out, but I think they are just fine, as long as they are mutually interesting.

My favorite story of a couple acting out their fantasy is when a husband came dressed to the door as a chauffeur and took his wife for a ride, with her sitting in the back seat as a customer. Then after a lot of seductive talk between them, they went back home and had a passionate evening.

Question from Billy: I got tickets to the basketball game for Valentine's Day. A really good one. How do I get my girl to come with me?

PS: OK Billy, does she even like basketball? If she's not a big fan, you'd better bookend this game with some pretty romantic stuff. Start it with a great gift — roses or something special for her. Hold her and show her affection during the game, and then take her out someplace nice afterward. Your overall goal here is to help her associate basketball with affection and pampering.

Comment from Martin: I'm not looking forward to Valentine's Day. It's the first without my wife.

PS: Oh, Martin, that is hard. Don't leave yourself alone. Get together with some friends and go do something. It doesn't matter if it's bowling, poker, a movie or a hike. Whatever it is, make sure it keeps you busy. Embrace friendship and the joy of being alive and just get through the day the best you can. You might find that being with friends helps you feel better about life in general.

Comment from No More: I hate being single this time of year.

PS: Hey, No More, we might need an attitude change. It is tough being single on this day, but use it as motivation. Get out there and find somebody to spend time with and enjoy. It is never too late for love. I have two friends in their 80s who recently found new love and are surprised at how passionate the relationship is. Get out there. Even this Valentine's Day and go to a singles' gathering or volunteer in a charity you care about. Join a new organization or try online dating. Use it as a beginning to find companionship.

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