Raising grandchildren can be a tremendous challenge. Grandparent caregivers need to develop a support system to help them with the many tasks at hand. It's also important for grandparents to take good care of themselves so they can stay mentally and physically healthy enough to do the job.
See also: GrandFamilies Resources.
One way to make the task easier is to connect with other grandparents in the same situation. There are many grandparent support groups located all over the country. Find one in your area by searching our Grandparent Support Locator or your state’s GrandFacts fact sheet at www.grandfactsheets.org.
If you are unable to find a group in your area, you might consider starting one yourself. Ask a local agency to sponsor your support group and help you find community resources and speakers. Try your Area Agency on Aging, child welfare office, county extension service, faith-based organization or other human services agency for help getting a group started.
In the meantime, here are answers to your questions about finding support:
How can I get other people to help me out?
As you take on the task of caring for grandchildren, your friends and family will probably want to help. But they may not be sure of what they can do. It's up to you to:
- Ask for help. Make a list of small and large ways family and friends can support you. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. It shows that you are going to do your best in raising your grandchild and you know what it will take to get that done.
- Have a family conference or meeting of close and extended family members. Discuss how your life, your grandchild's life and other family members' lives will change.
- Try to divide up tasks and responsibilities for other areas of your life, such as caring for older parents, so you can have the time and energy for raising children again. A small amount of planning can save you some big headaches later.
- Talk with your friends about how your social life will change. Let them know you'd still like to see them, but you might need help with babysitting.
How do I find support services in my neighborhood?
You probably will be able to find services and support for you and/or your grandchildren in your community. Start by checking out these resources:
- Schools. Talk to the social worker at your grandchild's school about what kind of help might be available
- Children's Services, Children and Families or Child Welfare Office. Call your town or county government offices to find out what kind of help you may be eligible for
- Faith-based organizations (religious organizations often have programs to help families even if they are not members of their faith)
- Community Centers
- YMCA and YWCA
- County Extension Offices
- Boys and Girls Clubs, Girl Scouts, Boy Scouts, and other youth groups
- Mentoring programs, like Big Brothers and Big Sisters
- Local colleges and universities (for example, they may have free legal clinics in their law schools, or might have student who can work with your grandchildren)