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Caregivers: Take Care of Yourself First

'Prepare to Care' and 'Powerful Tools' seminars offer support

Teri Swezey, of Carrboro, hopes to heighten awareness of caregiving issues by walking 3,000 miles.

Teri Swezey, of Carrboro, hopes to heighten awareness of caregiving issues by walking 3,000 miles. Since 2001, AARP North Carolina volunteers have taught “Powerful Tools for Caregivers” to 10,000 people. — Photo by D.L. Anderson

Teri Swezey had trouble concentrating. The 57-year-old's thoughts were divided between her job as a public health researcher and her home in Carrboro, where she was the primary caregiver for her mother, who had dementia.

"I was constantly worrying about my mom," Swezey said. "As a caregiver, I was trying hard to stay healthy, and that's hard to do when you are worried."

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A 2009 study by the National Alliance for Caregiving (PDF) found that 65.7 million Americans, someone from about 1 in 3 households, work as unpaid caregivers.

The report also found that 17 percent of caregivers said their health had worsened because of their additional responsibilities. The longer someone worked as a caregiver, the more likely they were to describe their health as fair or poor.

Roughly 300 AARP-trained volunteers offer courses throughout North Carolina to ease the often emotionally rocky and sometimes physically taxing transition to caregiving. This means reminding caregivers to tend to their own health, pointing them to community resources and reinforcing that they need to delegate some tasks.

Put your mask on first

Experts liken the process to the oxygen mask on a plane: If you don't take care of yourself first, looking after your loved ones becomes more difficult.

"What's resonating is we're helping people prepare before there's a crisis," said Suzanne LaFollette-Black, AARP North Carolina associate state director for community outreach.

Among the most popular offerings has been "Powerful Tools for Caregivers," which has been presented to more than 10,000 people in North Carolina since 2001. The six-week course — with classes ranging from 90 to 180 minutes once a week — teaches caregivers to take time for themselves, even if it's as simple as going for a walk or having a sibling take a parent to a hair appointment.

Another seminar, "Prepare to Care," which began in 2008, helps people determine what they'll need in their new roles, how to assemble an action plan for providing care for the recipient and themselves, and how to access support services in the community. Both courses are free (although there may be fees for materials), and attendees do not have to be AARP members.

To demonstrate just how difficult the strain can be, Mary Cay Corr of Chapel Hill, a 74-year-old volunteer and former caregiver, often starts the Prepare to Care session with a series of questions. Which pharmacy does your mother use? Who are her doctors? Where is her marriage license? What are her Internet passwords? Soon audience members are stumped and recognize the need to get organized.

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