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I just want to stay to all of you out there, that are going through the struggles of care giving, GOD BLESS! I have walked the walk, I was a caregiver for my mother for 8 yrs she had Alzheimer's. At the exact same time my husband developed heart failure, kidney failure, & colon cancer. My blind aunt went from pneumonia to lung cancer and my best friend breast cancer. My children were away at college and I didn't want to tell them for fear they would worry or dropout of school.
I would get up in the mornings around 4am and go for a run. I was not a runner, nor was I a morning person. But, it gave me something to focus on beside my situation.
When my mother refused to go to the doctor I had to become creative. I told her I was taking her out to dinner. She loved going out to eat. When we pulled up to the building she would say this building looks familiar. I would tease her and ask her whose she's been sneaking out with. When we entered the receptionist area I'd tell her we have to register for our table. When they called her name and asked her to weigh in I would explain that they wanted to see how many pounds she gained from eating their scrumptious meals. When the doctor came in and asked her medical questions I would explain that they wanted to make sure that the meals they prepared were healthy and met any medical restrictions. Afterwards I would take her out to eat and tell her how well she did and that we completed the survey and they gave us $20.00 off of our meal. She would be elated and ask when can we do this again.
What I learned during this period was you have to find small things to be thankful for. Take time to smell the roses - literally and figuratively. Just relaxing and taking a bubble bath can renew your spirit. Find something that you can enjoy doing that can take your mind away from your situation. Caregivers need care too!
God bless you!