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In Response to RE: What do you wish you knew WHEN YOU FIRST STARTED CAREGIVING that you know now? by EdieG
Yes, being a caregiver is a 24 hour job. No matter how you may feel, you are on call 24 hours a day. I was very close to my husband but carling for him took its toll on me. Sometimes I would be so tired, I almost felt sick. Friends would say "take care of yourself", but how are you going to do that when you are on call 24 hours a day. My husband was a big man, Thinking back, I can still feel the way I did when I would try to help him get up after he would fall. I'm glad that I was able to care for him. I'm glad that I was able to keep him here at home. It wasn't easy for him either. A proud man having to have his wife care for him, he was not at all happy about this. As I said before, it's different with a spouse than with a family member. I was also the caregiver for my mother. I know how you feel. Just hang in there. One thing that I think is important to do and that is to get some free time to do what you want to do. Find out what is available in means of helping you to take care of your father. You have to do the digging. They are not going to tell you. I would go on the internet looking. I would call a phone number out of the phone book and just say, "if you can't help me, do you know who I can call that may be able to help me". By doing this, I was able to get medicaid for my husband due to his medical condition. After some years, I was finally able to have someone come in for a few hours a day and help with my husband. I had hospice for my mother. That's something else that isn't easy, having a perfect stranger come into your home each day but it allowed me to go out and have some much needed free time for myself.Good luck and hang in there.