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In Response to Caregiving by threexnana
Just remember you are not alone. My husband of 30 years had a pacemaker installed in 1999. Unfortunately, he has the one that was recalled and needed to have it replaced. After that the leads needed to be replaced. During the last lead replacement operation he had a stroke. He lost approximately 25% of his brain function. Luckily, he is able to somewhat function on his own. He can dress himself, eat, and get around slowly. His is issue is that he has very limited cognitive ability and and cannot come up with nouns and pronouns in his sentences. If you play charades, you want me on your team. Do not worry about the cardiac recovery that is a snap compared to what you have been through. It is amazing what the doctors can do in the cardiac area. I am in the same place you are. Our retirement plans are out the window and I am now taking care of a four year old. Stay close to your friends.... We moved to our retirement condo a few months ago. We purchased it years ago and decided to move there. It is located in the South and, after the stroke, my husband could not tolerate the cold (we lived in New England) and could not deal with the snow. I had friends down here, but over time some moved back to be with their children and other have passed on. You talk about roller coasters, here I am alone dealing with this. Talk about wanting to run away. I deal with the same deprression you are having. Some times my husband seems normal and then I am slapped down by reality. It is difficult to meet people where we are and I am finding that having a spouse with a disability puts other people off. I am trying to figure out what I can do here to save my santiy. Good luck.