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My Mother had a stroke on my BDay in 2009. We moved her to the Dallas area, where my older brother of 11 years, his 2 daughters and another granddaughter live. There was no time to prepare for the caregiver role I was placed in. My brother and I both offered for Mom to move in with us after completing rehab but she didn't want to be a burden so she moved to an assisted living close to me. She loved it and I can provide the name as it is domestic. The staff and residents loved my Mother. In fact everyone my Mom met loved her. She was a sweet, Southern woman, never cursed, drank or said a bad word about anyone. It became evident quickly in our family that the relationship with a Mother and daughter is truly different from that of a son. Both my brothers are much older and were gone from home by the time I was in the 3rd grade. I wasn't close to my dad so it was always Mom and me. I was married once many years ago and have a grown son who lives in Houston. I was convinced God made me single so I could take care of Mom when she needed me and many times she told me she couldn't have made it without me. Mother had the most remarkable outlook on life and told me God blessed her with her stroke. I asked how and she said he didn't make her paralyzied. For all pratical purposes she was; the only thing that qualified Mom to go to assisted living was that she could somewhat feed herself and she was mentally competent until the last few weeks of her life. She needed assistance getting into bed, dressing and going to the rest room. My brothers did nothing to assist me, in fact they critized me. My sister in law told them if they didn't like how I was handling the situation to do something about it but they did nothing. Mother's trauma from the stroke progressed gradually at first and then quickly toward the end. She died on 1/26/2011. On 3/29/11, I was placed on probabation at work because my job performance failed while I was caring for Mom and was fired on 7/11/11. Everyone was shocked I lost my job and the circumstances were kept quite in the workplace. My brothers don't even know because I don't want them to feel guilty and my son stated he wished my Mother had never moved here. I worked for the company for 21 years and all they gave me was 2 weeks pay and the right to seek unemployment. How could they think that I could be emotionally ready to seek a job after what they did to me? Maybe it was my ignorance but I wasn't aware I could request FMLA and it was never mentioned to me. I have approached an attorney about this issue. However I doubt I do as Texas is a right to work state and a right to fire state. My advice to anyone going into this role is to find out what your rights are if you work full time and get as much support as you can. It is a grueling process that can wear you down quickly. I spent quality time with my Mom during the last year and a half of her life and if it cost me my job, that is a company I wouldn't want to work for. Don't be fooled that corporate America cares about you because they don't. It's all about the bottom line. This job loss has been like a divorce for me. Fortunately, I have a good support system ouside my family and I know through their love and time I will get beyond this. If I can help any of you, please feel free to contact me. I truly belive in Pay it Forward and if one person can benefit from my experience, I will feel like I have accomplished something.