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I was married for 43 years, so I know the kind of comittment you are talking about. It sounds like you have moved on and you should be proud of yourself for taking the high road. Good for you!
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To advance my already advanced education, I have been on occassion, purchasing courses from [The Teaching Company]. [Teach12.com]. The organization records, audio and video, lectures from well accepted, experienced professors in the USA University system. One such course, "Understanding the Mysteries of human Behavior," Prof. Mark Leary, Duke University, Psychology and Neuroscience. Lecture 7 is on happiness and lectrure 8 is on stress. The best thing that I can do here is just say this: 10% of your happiness is from day-to-day living, 60% is DNA factors, your specific personality traits as inherited, the remaining 30% is a mixture of sources.
When you find a new person, and say marry, the new high lasts about 2 years. But, in the end, you will return to your normal base line of happiness. We all have a baseline and we maintain that baseline with a passion. You buy a new car and for a period, you get a little bump in happiness and it will last about 6 months. In the end, you once again, return to your baseline level of happiness. This is from some major stuides of human behavior.
After a divorce from a 42 year marriage, my spouse's choice, I went through 3 years of moderate denial and depression. During that time, I opted to stay off pharmacetucials and just exercise everyday and keep a good, low fat, diet. In the end it has worked well. I am much better these days. I have not entertained dating for now. I am learning to enjoy the freedom of living on my own and doing what I wish. Sounds selfish at first, but, I have learned, there is a great deal to be said for self-identification. I was very dedicated in the last marriage and managed my spouse's medical problems to the tune of 9 surgeries. She also is type II diabetic, high BP, and high triglycerides all manged by drugs. She may also be bi-polar or suffer from some other mental complications.
So, I am not perfect, but we never had a major argument that I remember. The end was quick and her sister was involved. I will not go on about that. Alcohol and related situations from her sister effected the home life.
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