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It's been a while since I posted on here. Been sort of busy getting my new life started.
The divorce was final Feb 3rd, almost a year from the date "he" told me of his infidelity and wanting a divorce. The last year has been one of terrible pain, but also great light. My friends and family rallied around me and helped me through this difficult time. Without them, my faith, my church, I'm not sure I would have made it. Certainly, I would not be in as good a shape as I am today. Not that I am "over" the pain, but I am handling it much better than I thought I ever could.
I had my divorce ceremony at church the week after the legal divorce. It was a very moving and healing experience. If anyone tells you it will heal all the wounds they are being insincere. Or their wounds were not very deep. However, the ceremony did feel more like a true ending than the day in court. In court you simply get to answer questions, then some stranger says you are no longer married. Hardly a fitting ending to a 40 year marriage.
The ceremony was not one of anger and hate, but rather one to help me heal and let go of the past. If anyone would like information on what was said etc. please let me know and I would be happy to share.
In about a week and a half I will be starting my new life in a new city in a new house. My ex and his woman friend will be living in the house I designed, helped build and decorated. While this thought is difficult, starting new in a place that is MY own is better than remaining here with all the memories of 23 years together in this house. Every time I walk in I feel suffocated by the house and the memories within it. I have no desire to do any work in it. I have already started working on my new house, and my children are helping me. They seem even more excited than I.
I received some fabulous news about 3 weeks ago. My daughter, and son-in-law are expecting a baby in September. I will now live about 12 blocks from my new grandchild instead of 6 hrs away. I get to spoil this child rotten! As they say, every cloud has a silver lining. I think sometimes when we are so hurt we fail to see the silver lining in the clouds and instead concentrate on the darkness within the clouds.
I'm working hard at seeing the silver lining and trying to brush away the darkness. It's no easy task, but I know in the long run finding the good, letting go of the bad will make my life better.
I hope all of you are working on letting go of the bad and trying to find the good in each and every day. Obviously, the pain will be with us for a long time, but as life goes on, there will be much more good than bad.
Blessings to ALL!