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Hold on, sister...hold on. Take some deep breaths. Now...go and call the person you trust the most in your life. Talk, talk, talk! It is important that you be able to confide in somebody right now and talk about your feelings.
BTW: It's perfectly okay to be angry right now. Yell at the walls and feel free to call him every awful nasty name you can remember. Go ahead and cry...cry your heart out. BUT...then, compose yourself and start doing the things you need to do to protect yourself.
If you had retained a lawyer, the papers would probably have been served to him/her. Retain a lawyer NOW. It will save you a whole lot of heartache because the communication can be done through them if it becomes difficult for the two of you to communicate right now.
Just yesterday, he told you that he would pay the mortgage for a year and then file for a divorce. Now, only one day later, he has filed for divorce? Wow...he is in a hurry, isn't he? My X told me something similar and he did something similar, too. That's when it started to really sink in that I could never trust him again.
If the state you live in has "marital property laws", you are entitled to 1/2 of EVERYTHING he has. My lawyer set me up with a divorce financial advisor and it prooved to be the best thing I did. My X even fired his lawyer (at the time of our divorce hearing) and took the advice of MY financial advisor.
I was SO afraid that I wouldn't be able to live at the economic level that I had before the divorce. While I certainly don't have as much money as I would have had in my marriage, I am doing okay. You will, too!
"Sorry" is such an easy word to say, isn't it? It doesn't take away any of the pain; it doesn't help right now. But, hold-on, sister...you are going to be just fine...I can promise you that!
Keep those friends and family close and with their help, you will get through this.
In Response to Re: My 26 year mariage fells like it is ending.:
Just been served divorce papers this morning. So many overhewlming emotions I'm feeling right now; the pain; deception; the lies. It goes on and on. I'm loss for words right now. I had just got off the phone talking to him, not once did he mentioned he filed. Then a certified letter came. I knew it right away.I called & told him how disappointed I was that our whole life together means this little to him now.His words "I'm sorry".
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