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Jealousy--so hard to avoid and so painful for the person who feels it! It's normal to be jealous. Go ahead, feel it! But you don't begrudge the grands a visit to Mt. Rushmore even if you're not there to see their faces. As kind and loving a person as you are is happy for them. Remember, though, that you're also not there to deal with them cranky at the end of a tiring day of travel and such. AND you don't have to be disinfected after X exposure. One word of caution, though, from my point of view. Accept being jealous, but hide it deep before those grands come back so it won't taint their enthusiastic blow-by-blow description of their fun. Another time it'll be you who is going somewhere with them (even if it's only to the park) and maybe he who's feeling left out and jealous. That's the way life works most of the time.
I've not been blessed with grandkids. My (grown) children go to a family reunion each year (his family). Yes, I'm jealous when that happens. I'm also apprehensive because sometimes the stories they bring home are painful--sometimes the X family say and do hurtful things. But I'm here when they get back to share joy about the fun times and love and caring for the bad. As dan62iel said, you're the principle life giver. There really isn't a substitute. My mother passed away 10 years ago and we were too alike not to fight a lot. But I miss her every day of my life still. My mom's mom died over 50years ago but I still miss and love her--and remember all the times she was there for me--perhaps only a smile or a cuddle, but precious nonetheless. I'm sure your grands will have plenty of that to treasure for the rest of their lives. It's plenty.