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Hi, my name is Rachel and I need to lose alot of weight. When I see people on websites that are upset with themselves because they are needing to lose 20-30 pounds, I get jealous because that is a drop in the bucket compared to my situation.
I am 5 foot tall (or should I say short) and weigh 219lbs. I have never weighed this much in my life. I lost 15 pounds a couple of years ago with the south beach diet and stopped doing it and gained 30. I used to walk almost every day and have stopped doing that. I eat alot of fast food and sweets. I know why I am fat and it is not because I am some mental case with issues. It is because I love food and love to eat. Ok, maybe I do have some issues...
I have put on a total of 75 pounds since my daughter was born 21 years ago. I was in a car accident 17 years ago and was hurt pretty bad and had a long recovery process. Then I had my son 15 years ago. These three things were factors in my weight gain but after 15 years it is time to quit using them as an excuse dontcha think?
I am on medication for depression which has changed my life. I am much more easy going now and less moody and sad. But the weight is a constant source of stress for me and I don't understand why I can't commit to losing it. I have a closet full of clothes that start at size 18 and have recently bought some 22s and that was not a fun trip to the mall - believe me.
I am looking for some folks that I could become buddies with who are in a similar situation as me. I am 47 years old (I think - I always have to do the math) and I would really like to lose 50-60 pounds (or more) before I am eligible for AARP. I will actually be 48 in a couple of weeks so that would give me two years to achieve this goal.
My main problem right now is just getting motivated and take the first step. I put it off every day and constantly wait for Monday to start new. I need to get off my fat butt and get moving! So why don't I? I am lazy for one thing. The other thing is like I said, I love food and love to eat. Plus, I am sure I eat because I am stressed about eating. A vicious cycle!
So is there anybody out there that would like to begin a friendly support group of sorts? Please let me know.
At 5'1", I weighed 183 pounds. When I stepped on the scale one morning and it broke, I realized I could no longer postpone dealing with reality. I ended up losing about 1/3 of myself--62 pounds. After trying and failing for 40 years and suffering much as you describe yourself suffering, I finally dug my way out of the hole. Or should I say I finally dug my "weigh" out of the hole?
It isn't that I stopped loving food or loving to eat. It is because I started to love other aspects of my life more. And it isn't because I am disciplined that I exercise each day. It is because I love the exercise I am doing. I play tennis on a USTA team, I walk regularly with a girlfriend and I work out in my home gym. None of my old habits will ever lose their temptation for me--it is just that I want something else more than I want them.
I also made a decision to change my life all at once. From the day I made my decision to get fit, I changed everything. Many experts advise people to take it slowly and make gradual changes. I am sure that works for some. But for me, I needed a fresh start. Plus, the gradual changes would take so long to show up on the scale that I would likely get discouraged and quit once again. So I created a fresh chapter in my life and wrote the script the way I wanted it.
I now have so much fun in my life. I enjoy the days so much more now. Losing weight has been the most exciting and amazing educational experience I could ever have imagined. When I stepped on the scale, totally mortified at my weight and the scale broke, I never could have imagined that I would one day coach the Fat 2 Fit community. How I wish I would have begun the process of getting fit earlier in my life. However, better late than never, right? I hope sharing my experience helps others gain insight into their own solution. I say that because when we break out of our personal jails, we are exhilarated by the possibilities in our new life.
One last thing I can tell you with certainty. If you are trying to make these changes on your own, your chances for success are slim. You need to reach out to the people in your immediate world--family, friends and others you know. You need seek support and give support as well. We are on this journey together.