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This is difficult to discuss because there are so many variables. There must be 10's of thousands of articles and blogs talking about what people are, or are not, doing in retirement. The obvious general answer is that it depends on your living situation, income, hobbies, volunteer opportunities, personal health and mobility, interests, recreational activities in your area, clubs/groups, educational availability, family, etc.
I early retired at 55 (DW was 53). We planned, since our 20's, to do whatever we needed to retire early. As a result, we are well off and can afford to indulge ourselves in travel. We also have worked out 5 days a week, for decades, so we're fit.
We have a popup camper, and we have gone out camping/hiking for 3-4 weeks at a time in national parks. We hike 8-15 miles a day on these trips --- that's our passion. We take multiple trips a year just for 'hard core' hiking. We also take shorter trips for walking/biking closer to home largely using rails-to-trails bike paths. I've now started going to Europe every year and am looking at south and central American trips in the winter. We'll go out biking for a day, or take 3-5 day trips around the midwest doing biking/walking --- we're easily entertained by simply doing 8-10 mile walks through various towns along with a 25 mile bike ride.There are lots of old, historic, towns to tour. We enjoy just walking around university campuses. Places like Twin Cities (MN), Quad Cities (il), Washington DC, are perfect for combinations of biking, walking, museums. We hit those towns every couple of years, plus others, for 4-7 day trips.
When not traveling, we live on a few acres. I have endless gardening, landscaping, firewood cutting, hauling, splitting, stacking. We also did the 'traditional' housing makeover for several years. We're also in an area with lots of volunteer opportunities which DW does more than I.
Winter is more difficult. I did spend the first couple of winters watching way too much TV. I would read, go out for a walk, spend 2-3 hours at a health club, some remodeling, but filling in 16 hours a day can sometimes be difficult. I'm now looking at more trips over the winter in warmer climes.
But, that is our situation. Probably not yours. I did miss the intellectual aspects of work for a couple of years, but only for a couple of years. But again, we're fit and have the financial resources to travel where and when we want, so it's easy for us. We also have a fair amount of family around. If we were living in the middle of Nebraska or Montana, things might be different (no offense).
All I can tell you is stuff DW and I have done --- it may or not be applicable to you. As far as 'losing identity' --- no way, no how. I did my job to make a living --- I didn't 'identify' with it. Because we have family and friends, we have enough interaction (too much, at times ). Learning is ongoing --- I kept learning how to work on the house, expand the garden, travel, museums, and we have colleges around that I have not tapped into for adult education courses.
Good luck trying to find a balance for yourself.