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. I was reading the posts here and was thinking about what everyone was saying. Here is what I have found and this may only be my feelings speaking out but.........
One thing you must remember Fantasies are just fantasies and nothing more. When you consider moving to a new area of the country or where ever it may be because of a fantasy or better weather or near water or…….. But remember, it is better to have a fantasy than to try and live out that fantasy, you may find the fantasy is better than the reality. Another thing that must be considered is “What do you do now in your spare time ?
Chances are that if you do not have any interests, outside of your job, you will have some concerns when you retire. Most men focus on their jobs and in being the major provider for the family. What I found that I had never realized is your job tends to become part of your identity and when you “quit” your job you loose your identity. In some cases that is difficult to over come. Most people live a life of quiet desperation except for those who have an all consuming interest OUT SIDE OF THEIR JOBS.
When I first retired, that first month, I had some concerns. One I discovered I had lost my identity and Two, I felt guilty because I was not going to work everyday (?). I never thought that would happen to me !
After that first month I started back into my hobbies (of which there are a few) and, through hobbies I started meeting many new people and making new friends. In my experience, this is the name of the game.
Now comes location. No matter where you go, North, South anywhere, you will (after retirement) have a lot of time on your hands. If you have no hobbies and in an area of not knowing anyone, the days will be long at best. How will you meet new people, make friends, fill your time during the day (and evening). Again, your retirement plan should include your hobbies. If you have none it may be good to start thinking about one (or two) or getting involved is something that you can do well or like doing. This will fill your time to your advantage and you will not just sit there in the new city, with the great weather and wait to until your time is up…..know what I mean.
I believe, while one is working a steady job, one seldom thinks about the actuality of having full days with nothing but time. Start thinking about what you will do with that time when you no longer have to work and are no longer on a schedule. I think this will help you bunches.
I have lived in Arizona and loved it. Do to some things beyond my control I have settled again in Ohio. Vary different places. Advantages for Arizona, as far as I am concerned, the weather…..it was not uncommon to have 150 days straight with nothing but sunshine and clear weather with little or no wind, perfect for the things I like to do. Ohio, the weather sucks, windy, cold, wet……. but I have many acquaintances and a few friends here. Plus it so happens that all of my grown children (and their families) have moved back into this area. Roots are something that will tie you to a location and it is very difficult to sever. I will go back to Arizona one day, maybe only for a few months at a time I do not know for sure, but I know my home is in Ohio due to that stupid ROOTS thing. One must consider very carefully what truly floats your boat before jumping into something that you may truly not enjoy over the long haul (and may cost you a lot of money to discover)………
If you are married and, as a couple you are making a major move to a new location, that would be much better and actually could be fun to do. Here comes that “sharing” thing again. If you have someone to share the little stumbling blocks together in a new location with everything that comes with it, that would be fun…..but doing this alone would be just like it is now with nobody to share things with. If it is fun now being alone that by all means make the move alone too. Making a move does not guarantee happiness, happiness is inside of us and by looking in, is the only way we can find it.
www.aarp.org/community/editor/fckeditor/editor/images/smiley/msn/regular_smile.gif" /> Rich ~ Hi! Hope you're doing well. I've just joined this group. Thanks for this post; it's outstanding, thought provoking, helpful! I'm a few months-to-a-year away from my retirement from a lifelong career in teaching & bilingual counseling. Quite a few issues to deal with, no question; you touched on several of them, for starters! I appreciate your thoughts, experiences, comments! Cheers, Anna