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Greetings, fellow 'career changers'!
I started a career straight out of college - teaching - and I still think that's what my career is. My titles have changed, and the industries I've worked in have changed, but the core of my talent seems to be teaching. Marketing is the more familiar word to most people, but marketing is just teaching, right?
So, to me, though my career still seems to be on track, what I am struggling with is changing my deeply ingrained, classic-ly indoctrinated 'workaholic' mindset I have, and something that is reinforced in the everyday workplace to the extreme. It's how I was raised. You work hard, give an honest day's work, give your all, do whatever it takes, put in the time, and you'll get rewarded. Not. I've started my own business - mostly as a tax write -off of sorts after the last kid became independent, and therefore no longer a tax deduction. But I can't seem to break myself of this need to work for someone else to appear productive, and to make as much money as possible for my alledgedly 'stellar' retirement years (like that's going to happen).
My adult children are shaking their heads. First, at age 52, I leave the industry I was in in for 23 years because the workaholic stressful, seasonal schedule deprived me of most major holidays and any semblance of a "normal" life (though I was good at it and liked it most of the time!). A full year off 'searching ' led to a new industry, less seasonal, still demanding but exciting. That one ended out of the blue with major company-wide layoffs. Not to worry because networking paid off and a new position was found right away in a 'sister' industry. This time I called it quits after a year, simply because it wasn't going anywhere, and again I was working myself to death. There was 'no joy in Mudville' if you know what I mean.
Does anyone else identify with the issue of working so hard that you lose sight of the rest of the world, and/or where you want to be in it? Has anyone else found a way to balance making money with enjoying life? Yes, I can theoretically do that with my own business, but reality check here - no way can I rely on my own new business to support me in the manner to which I'm used to (like having affordable health insurance!!), especially if I want to 'retire' someday with a comfortable nest egg.
Thanks. Looking forward to anyone's thoughts.
My name is Gretchen Henry and I am new to this group. With the current job market situation it is very scary to be pounding the pavement looking for a company that wants/needs me. Also, desparation will make people take whatever is available. I have done this to myself too many times. Though I work for a university, the state government bugdet situation has me wondering when my "turn" will come and I have to take whatever's out there. I am somewhat entrpreneurial and have learned about trading hours for dollars (I have ususally been on the short side of that deal). I have come to believe that if you are going to really take care of yourself you must work for yourself. June said she gave her all to a company that let her go. I say, give your all to your self! I know that is easier said than done - but I am working on it!
Best of luck, June!