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Hi Mireille, I feel your pain. I'm 53 and although my grandkids don't live with me (now), I am very much in their lives. You see, they live around the corner from me and I get them every weekend. Because they lived with me the first two years of their lives, I grew very attached to them. They are more like my kids than my grandkids. I know how it feels to watch your daughter make bad choices and neglect the needs of her child. My daughter has twin boys, age almost 5; birthdays this month. When I go through rocky times with my daughter(s), I often feel alone. I feel like there can't be another grandmother better than me so why is my child treating me like this? How can you disrespect me in front of the kids? When she do that, I notice the boys begin to act out and speak disrespectfully to me. And that is not the kind of relationship they and I have. I know my grandsons adore me and love me. I don't call and ask for them to come see me, they have learned when Friday at 5:00 is and they are calling me to see what time am I coming to get them. The problem is the mom has gotten used to that schedule and assume I'm going to get them EVERY weekend. The same with my money. Financially, I do what the father should be doing; he's in jail. I give all that I can give and never complain. Until recently. I had been feeling like I am expected to do the things I do and the boys are getting too spoiled. I decided to step back a little and because of this, my daughter has decided to use the kids as a weapon against me. She is planning to send them away for the summer to a big city where they can easily get lost. What I'm really trying to say is my fear is that they will get left. Left on the city train or in a store or anyplace. That's because the person who is taking them don't have small children - her daughter just graduated high school. My fear is that I will never see my twins again. This is really tearing my heart up and I have nightmares of various scenarios of them getting lost. My daughter is doing this because I cut the money off. So, please believe that you are not alone. My drama might be different from yours per say, but the love we have for our grandkids are the same. Wanting what's best for them is the same. Wishing our kids are better parents is what we both want. All I can say is keep writing. Free your soul of the buredon. Keep talking about it. I know there are others like us, struggling to show the next generation a better way of living. I will pray for both of us tonight.