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My Granddaughter lived with me for the last 8 yrs until her Mom persuaded me to let her take her for awhile. My health had gotten very bad at the time & my Granddaughter was becoming extremely defiant & rebellious. Also my husband works nights (3 pm to 3 am) so he was not home to help. Altho' I was never totally convinced with letting my Granddaughter go to her Mother's (for several reasons), since there was no other family nor options, I agreed. Also, she lives only about 30 minutes from us & I was also under pressure by my husband (who is her step-Grandfather) to let her go. Thus, she went to live with her Mother about 8 wks ago & her Mother was going to homeschool her. We had no reason to doubt that she was going to do as she said. Unfortunately, the "nagging" feeling I had about the situation proved to be justified as we have just found out that my Daughter never subscribed to a school curriculum & had only printed a couple of papers that were not part of any legit school. In fact, she never even attempted to enroll my Granddaughter. Her answer was that she didn't have the time nor money to homeschool!! The problem is that she didn't bother to tell us any of this until NOW!! My Granddaughter confessed to me after she began to get worried about not going to school. Of course, she thought it was really a fun arrangement at first but began to realize the consequences & felt she needed to tell us. She is also on medication & her Mother has not been giving it to her as she says "she's grown & should be able to take it without being reminnded"...(this 'grown" girl turned 14 the end of last month) By not taking the medication, which can be very dangerous, her behavior & ability to cope has become difficult & she is more emotional. This is especially frustrating as she had been doing wonderfully...So now, I am faced with a major dilemma. My health is still not well & I currently need two surgeries; my husband has not changed (& still continues to defend my Daughter while blaming my 14 yr old Granddaughter for everything...another story entirely) In any case, I am now needing to find out as much as I can about home schooling, etc. & just what I need to do at this time concerning the time that my Granddaughter was not in school. Fortunately, it was over the holidays which I hope will help some. I would appreciate ANY of your help..& I thank you so very much. Currently, I feel like a very foolish, irresponsible, naive old woman facing Goliath...definitely in need of prayer & guidance!. I am grateful for any of your siggestions & welcome all of your advice. Thank you again for your help.
I was a teacher and school counselor for over 25 years. At least 95% of the students who re-enrolled in public school when I was there were extremely behind academically. I do not think I could do it with my granddaughter even though I have the education to do it. My granddaughter is 10 and it is difficult to just get her from in front of the tv long enough to get her homework. I dread when she is a teenager and develops that defiance you speak of. We have such high hopes for our children and grandchildren, but education is the key to success, and many of us are not equipped (educationally, with patience, financially, healthwise, etc) to provide the best education to help them fulfill their greatest potential. A few homeschool parents do a great job, but they have been rare in my career. There is a free online public school in Texas that a friend of mine found this week. If I were to choose a homeschool program, I would probably look at the one Texas Tech has (counselor's point of view) or the University of Texas in Austin. T T has the program that is considered the best by many and it does prepare them for college. I could not teach the higher level of math and it would be like I was in school again to teach all of the subjects to the level they would need in order to pass college entrance exams.