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Thank you for your response.I live in Tucson Arizona.The kids get DES but it is rediculous.Only $278 for all of them. Ihave a 15,11 and 9 year old.I am proud of my boys they are great kids.Except when my daughter chats with them we have 3 days of dramma. She still puts out all that negativity.She has never offered to help me.My neighbors helped us this year have Thanksgiving.One of my daughters x boyfriend bought us necessities.I had to get a car because after 11 years mine died.These boys are on meds and go to the doc every other month.So another burded for 3 years.She will flaunt her spending around and prove a point buying on grandkids a PS3 when we needed clother bath stuuf etc.Just toget them all fighting.It is crazy.Then she had the never to ask me to claim one of the boys so she could get money back on taxes for cosmetic surgery.I had to pray for inner strength on that one.
Thanks for listening and any advise
I am new to this on AARP, however, I have "shared" custody of my granddaughters, ages 7 & 9. I receive child support from mother and father but that's a joke... The father just changes jobs when the Virginia Dept. of Child Support Enforcement catches up to him and the mother, who earns at least $18.00 per hour, is only court ordered to pay $82.00 (this does not even cover the cost of school lunches). I have spent over $22,000 in attorney's fees to get this far and it keeps me wondering if it's worth it. The mother pays her pathetic $82.00 per month but the father is now in arrears $21,000 in back child support payments. We keep going to court and it costs more and more. I work full time and get so tired sometimes. It seems a vicious cycle!
Don't give up trying to get what is rightfully the children's from the parents. It is a long battle and, even in my case, an exercise in patience, but the children can't fight for what is their's on their own. I am assuming you have custody of your grandkids for some very compelling reasons. I have mine as the mother physically abused the oldest one and I fought for custody. At that, I was only able to get "shared" custody but the parents never take them so, in truth, I have the children 99.9% of the time in my care -- and that's fine by me.
I hope you have applied to the Dpt of Child Support Enforcement at your local Social Services office. I have tried to get public assistance for the children but am told I do not qualify becuase the parent's earn too much money and "should" be taking financial care of their children. Ah well... I keep trying. Anyway, good luck.