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I run a grandparent group where we research laws & reseach is done. We would be glad to have anyone who needs this help to come. We are called firstname.lastname@example.org . It says virginia but we do research for all states , so maybe we can help you also. God Bless,Regina
I haven't been here in a while. My 12 & 13 year old granddaughters have a lot of emotional and behavioral issues. I am in NC. I don't know if anyone knows what aa CFT meeting is. Here they call it a Child & Family Team meeting. Yesterday I was informed that they are thinking about putting 1 granddaughter in a theraputic foster home and possibly taking my other granddaughter and placing her in another foster home. When DSS stepped in back in December of 2008 and removed them from their mom's home and they placed them with me and my husband, we told them we would do all we could as long as everyone understood that my husband was permanently laid off his job (it was outsourced to China & Mexico). At that point we only had what income my husband was getting from unemployment. I just started receiving Social Security Disability in June of this year. When my husband was able to have access to his 401K he decided to put it in a 401k/cd account at our bank. When we tried to get food stamps for the 4 of us we were turned down because Social Services said that 401k was spendable income. So my husband took the money and purchased a used vehicle that we needed to be able to get the girls to different appointments. Now we are being told that we have to build on to the home we are in so the girls can have their own room or move to a bigger place. How can we do that when we can't get assistance where we are? When they placed the girls with us I told them the only place I had for the girls to sleep was in the living room on a futon. I was told that was fine. Now we are being told that we have had almost a year to make changes. My husband told them in the meeting yesterday that when they placed the girls with us we were told it was temporary. Eleven months later you are still saying it is temporary. Why should we take on the added expenses of a larger home when we are not sure that we can afford a larger place on the income we have coming in. When the social worker asked me a couple months about had we considered moving. I told her that we were not opposed to the idea but we would have to do what we could with the money we have coming in. My husband put it a little better than I did. He told them at the meeting that if they could find 10 acres of land and a bigger house for $300.00 a month (which is what we have now minus a bigger house) then we would gladly move. But with him being unemployed and me on disabilty no one was going to rent to us.
Can you please give me some ideas on how we can meet the task they have given us. Mom had worked her way up to 8 hour unsupervised visits with her daughters. But things had been reported to DSS that mom was doing things that she had been told by DSS and the courts she was not to do when the girls are with her so they have cut her visits back to 2 hours unsupervised. So at this point I don't know if they feel that the girls will ever be placed back with mom. I fear that what ever DSS does the girls will think of me and grandpa like the older girl has told me she feels her dad has done. She told me that she feels like a piece of discarded trash, that she was something he had and now has just thrown away, because he is not trying to do any of the things that the courts or DSS has required him to do. He seldom shows up for court hearings or CFT meetings.
Their mom is my daughter. I love her and I have talked to her until I have turned blue and purple in the face and it is still like she isn't hearing what has been said. The oldest granddaughter told me and my husband last night that she does not want to go back to mom even for the 2 hours a week. Can you help us, please????