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Chris, I'm sorry to hear that your father is dying. Are you sure your father knows your beliefs? Maybe he just doesn't want the added stress and humiliation of religious family members telling him it's not too late for him to convert. If you know he knows you're an agnostic/athiest maybe you could ask him if he changes his mind about talking to let you know. I agree with Temy when he said that just being there for both of you to enjoy each other's company during his last moments is a good idea. Since he is dying I assume he's not up to reading answers from more thought out agnostics/Atheists on the subject. Maybe you could do research just in case he wants to talk or read. I'm sure your effort will come in handy in the future. Since I have at least three nonbelieving family members, plus myself, I should take my own advice and prepare. When my mother was dying with Lou Gerrigs I gave her religious literature I thought might help her and took her to a well known Catholic Healing Priest's Service. She found great comfort from the 8 hour Service, the literature not so much. I was religious at the time but I would do the same for any religious loved one even now. I hope I said something that might help.
Tom, thank you also for your thoughtful and intelligent reply. Boy, I'm impressed with us... lol. Of course, we skeptics, by definition, are a smart lot... but I digress... Yes, the last few days were spent just dealing with the immediacy of his comfort, dinner plans, people coming and going... nothing too heavy. We said we loved each other, which, unfortunately, was not something my parents and I said much in the old days. And yes, we should all give thought to this - do some preparation. It makes things SO much easier on those left behind, and the time to discuss it and plan for it is WHEN you don't expect it... then you can be completely rational and unemotional.